An individual experiencing a feeling of worthlessness; He is generally dissatisfied with his feelings, thoughts and behaviors, and over time, experiencing this negative process leads to dissatisfaction with himself. While not having enough self-confidence and self-esteem leads to a feeling of worthlessness, the deepening feeling of worthlessness causes these two to lose their power to a great extent. A vicious circle occurs.
So what is the feeling of worthlessness? The feeling of worthlessness is the way an individual perceives himself, with all his characteristics, as being more worthless and insignificant than other people, and interprets himself in this way.
It is known that from the moment a person is born, he experiences physiological as well as psychological-based development periods. When the individual begins to communicate with his environment from the early periods of his childhood, his schemas for his future life and himself will gradually begin to form. While the child creates negative schemas about the difficulties he encounters and thinks he is inadequate to face, he will create more positive schemas in the face of problems he thinks he can solve, which will support his self-confidence and self-esteem.
After a healthy bond with the mother, the child will create more positive schemas in the external environment. Of course, the form of communication it establishes with other objects in the world will have negative aspects as well as positive ones. If the child cannot activate his problem-solving skills when faced with such negative situations, this will cause him to believe that he is alone, helpless and inadequate in the face of problems. The first seeds of the feeling of worthlessness will be planted here.
In such cases, parents or other people around him will believe that he is alone, helpless and inadequate in the face of problems. Trying to solve the problem on behalf of the child (teacher-brother-sister-other adults) will make the situation a little more complicated. Because the child himself; He will begin to perceive himself as an externally dependent individual who needs help in the face of his difficulties, who cannot do anything on his own, and this will trigger feelings of inadequacy in him.
On the contrary, motivational words that are not translated into behavior for children do not help on their own. We can say. Parents and other significant others in the environment The possible risk of the figures' statements such as "you can do it, you can overcome this problem" addressed to the child is that children will feel inadequacy and worthlessness regarding any problem they cannot overcome. According to what my parents said, I could do this, but I couldn't, so the thought that I am incompetent may arise.
In order to take precautions when expressing our ideas to our children that they can do something, by being a role model for them, by teaching them ways to deal with the problem, We can help with small support. Rest assured, as a result of these approaches, children will begin to overcome many problems with the experiences they have accumulated, even if we are not always with them, and therefore their self-confidence and self-esteem will be strengthened. This will help deepen their sense of self-worth.
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