Some of the following items will be very familiar to you if you have schemas of Introversion (Adhesion) and Immature Self:
Nesting:
- I am easily influenced by my parents' emotional state. If she's unhappy, I'm unhappy too.
- My parents and I tell each other everything. (My parents should tell me everything.)
- I tell my parents everything. (I feel like I have to do this.)
- If my parent and I are separated, we won't survive.
- I get angry if my parent makes a decision independently of me.
- If I do something apart from my parent /I feel guilty if I hide something from him.
- I feel guilty if I live apart from my parent.
- I feel a deep attachment to my parent.
- I want to go home but I feel guilty doing it .
- My parents seem overly involved in my life.
- I feel like I'm suffocating when I'm with my parents.
- I can't get my own wishes if they conflict with my parent's.
- I've said things like “I know what's best for you” to my child.
- We are in constant contact with my parents.
- They should know what I want before I tell them.
- I know what they want before they tell me.
Underdeveloped Self:
- Without a guide, I feel like I'm being blown away.
- I don't know who I am.
- It's like there's a hole in me.
- I don't know what my talents are.
- I don't know what I like or dislike.
- As if my life isn't my life
If you have Introjection and Immature Self schemas, you may have childhood experiences similar to the following:
- My parents have told me many times that they know what is best for me. .
- I had to do everything my mom/dad said.
- My mom/dad wouldn't let me express my wishes, thoughts, feelings.
- I had to do things I didn't want because my parents wanted me to. (eating food I don't want, wearing clothes I don't want, making friends with people I don't want� Chatting, reading books I don't like, etc.)
How Introversion and the Underdeveloped Self affect your life:
- Moods of other people (important figures in your life) you will live as well. If they're unhappy, you'll be unhappy too.
- Their failures feel like your failures.
- You feel like you're not in control of your life.
- You don't listen to your own needs. As a result, you feel empty and unfulfilled.
- Your well-being depends on others' feeling well.
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