According to the widespread view in the scientific world in recent years, the first relationships a child establishes in the first years of his life have a significant impact on how he perceives the world and the new relationships he will establish in the future. People are born into relationships, get injured in relationships, and heal in relationships.
Fathers play an important role in the development of their children, healthy family relationships, and a healthy society. Although intensive studies have been conducted on motherhood and the mother-child relationship, there has not been much study on fatherhood and the father-child relationship until recently. However, recent studies conducted in the world and in our country emphasize that the father has an important place in the child's life and talk about the importance of child-father interaction.
According to most sources, the period between the ages of 0-7 is of great importance for the personality development of the individual. In this context, it is essential for the father to be physically and emotionally present in the child's life during early childhood, to spend effective time with the child, to encourage the child to behave independently, and to contribute to the healthy development of both himself and the child by fulfilling his responsibilities in the family.
If we briefly list the things we recommend to fathers for the healthy development of the child;
Approach the child's mother with respect
The best thing the father can do for the child's benefit is to have a quality relationship with the child's mother. If you and your spouse are together and married, try to keep your bond strong and your relationship alive. If you are not together or divorced, it is important to maintain your respect and supportive approach. A child who observes the relationship between two adults who respect each other will have a secure perception of the world. Thus, the child grows up as a respected and accepted individual in this environment of trust.
Show the child your love and listen to him/her
He/she is loved and brought into the world willingly. Knowing gives confidence to the child. Loving and showing closeness by touching, and feeling good emotions while doing this, strengthens the bond between the child and the adult. Effectively, so that the child feels that his/her opinions are valued and his/her problems are taken into consideration, It is important to get enough rest by focusing only on that, without being busy with anything else.
Draw healthy boundaries
Every child needs adult guidance and boundaries. In order for the child to know and develop himself, it is necessary for him to distinguish between himself and the other. Instead of punishment and excessive praise, it is important to sometimes talk about the consequences of their choices and sometimes give them the opportunity to experience them by living, and to praise the child's behavior, not himself, when he does good things, and show him that he is seen. Children of parents who naturally maintain boundaries in a clear, clear, consistent and comfortable manner feel deep down that they are loved, and with the comfort of this, they learn when and where to stop or continue in this safe environment.
Create opportunities for modeling by spending time together
Eating a meal together is more of a social sharing than just filling one's stomach. It is an important part of healthy family relationships. By spending time with their fathers, boys identify with their fathers and take them as models. In this way, girls experience establishing healthy relationships with men, and these experiences affect their relationship choices in later life.
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