When we experience problems in our daily lives, we try to find our own solutions. If our own solutions do not work, sometimes we want to get help from others and sometimes we do not and we are left alone with the problem. At this point, the problem we are in seems unsolvable and you should go to a psychologist when you think you cannot find a way out.
You can benefit from 3 main headings to persuade you to go to a psychologist for a problem.
How long have you had this problem? How much does this problem affect your daily life? How much does it distract you from your daily life? and To what extent does this problem affect you? If you were to rate the place of this question in your life, how many points would you give?
What should not be asked to a person who goes to a psychologist?
-How did it go?
-What did the psychologist say?
-Did he prescribe medication?
-Did it feel good? Have your problems been solved?
-How long will you go? Are you going to go all the time?
-What did you tell?
-What's your problem? What diagnosis did he make?
As a society, going to a psychiatrist/psychologist can still be a taboo for us. Social perceptions, taboos and myths are processes that affect people in every sense, regardless of whether they are true or false. Going to a psychologist or the person's perspective and misconceptions can undermine psychotherapy processes before they even begin. He who goes to a psychologist is crazy. Although the concept of insanity is not an expression in the science of psychology, it can be interpreted as a label attached to people who have psychological problems. Psychology is a science and studies human behavior. Therefore, going to a psychologist is as normal as going to a doctor when we have a physical problem.
On the other hand, the view of people who go to a psychologist is that they cannot solve their problems themselves, are weak, prone to depression (in popular parlance), problematic, crazy, etc. Labeling using expressions creates social pressure in people's lives. This pressure prevents people from getting help and worsens their situation.
The person made the decision and managed to come to therapy. This step is one of the biggest steps. dah Afterwards, the questions asked and the words spoken to people who started or continue therapy become even more important. Especially, the more support the person's family, friends and environment provide and show that they are with him, the faster the person's recovery speed will be.
What should not be said when children are taken to a psychologist?
The concept of psychologist may be a very abstract concept for children. It may be important to measure and evaluate what and how much the child knows. Because when you say to your child we will take you to a psychologist, who is the psychologist? You are likely to encounter the question: Therefore, you will need to explain who the psychologist is. Children in the very young age group (2-6 years old) should pay attention to every word they say.
-We are taking you to a psychologist, psychologists solve problems.
(The child's perception will be, am I a problem child?)
-We are taking you to the doctor.
(Psychologists are not doctors.)
-We will take you to a playmate.
(They may think they are older sisters in play centers in shopping malls, etc. They may even make comparisons such as the toys here are fewer, the ones there are more.)
-I'm taking you to a friend of mine, we'll have a coffee.
(It means deceiving the child; when he realizes that he has been deceived, he may not believe you if you have to go to a psychologist, doctor or somewhere else.)
Instead of lying to children about this, we go to the doctor when we have a pain or are sick. In this way, sometimes we may not be able to solve our problems, we may complain about some things or get upset. In this case, an explanation can be made that we need to go to someone who is an expert in this field and we will go there. If he asks what he will do there and what he will talk about; It can be said that the family will go together and chat with the specialist, and he can tell whatever he wants to talk about.
Children in older age groups (between the ages of 7-18) who have problems or problems know the meaning of a psychologist and sometimes they can express that they want to go to a psychologist. However, if the family has identified the problem but the child has no knowledge about this situation, the psychologist should test whether he/she knows what it is and then talk about the problems and consult a specialist. Deciding together to get support from the child shows that the child is not alone in finding a solution, reduces his/her stress and becomes more motivated to get help at this stage.
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