We all want to raise self-confident individuals.
But by saying "they should be self-confident", we either give children too much freedom, do not guide them and allow them to be spoiled and spoiled; or by saying "let the child be the master", we suppress the child, scare him and break his self-confidence.
The secret of this path is the "balance and determination" mechanism.
The first mechanism that creates the child's self-confidence is the mother and father. Therefore, what parents say about the child is important for his/her self-confidence. While schools and teachers rank second among those who improve self-confidence; The influence of the child's peers on self-confidence comes in third place. Since the first and most important duty is the family, parents have great responsibilities.
What can be done?
As I said, balance is very important in this business. Efforts should be made to find a middle ground.
The child should be provided with an environment where love and trust are given but boundaries are clearly drawn.
Parent's expectations should be appropriate to the child's structure and ability; Children should not be forced to do things they cannot do.
Even if they fail, the child's determination should be appreciated.
Children should be given responsibility and given the opportunity to do things they can do on their own (such as preparing their bags).
Children should only be compared with themselves and should be concretely chosen ( look, you couldn't tie your shoes yourself last year)
You should be supported and modeled in finishing what you started.
When you fail, you should be motivated (yes, this was a really difficult task), encouraged and encouraged for alternative ways.
If the child is right, it should be accepted that he is right; if he is wrong, his mistakes and how to correct them should be discussed.
He should be made to take responsibility for certain issues at home regularly and it should be checked whether he fulfills them.
When talking to the child, importance should be given to establishing eye contact, which makes him feel important. .
The child should be ensured to be in as many different environments as possible.
He/she should be encouraged in the subjects he/she enjoys and believes in which he/she can be successful, and should be organized to make good use of his/her free time.
The good and bad events that the family has been through can be shared comfortably with the child in the appropriate language, in the appropriate environment. should be shared.
You know that life is a flower for them. It will not offer a path full of things.
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