Sometimes, even though we don't realize it, thoughts like "Life has no meaning" cross our minds. In this case, we complain that we do not feel happy. However, the things that make us feel unhappy are the thoughts that pass through our minds. Unless thoughts change, unfortunately, we will not have the chance to feel happy. Of course, we don't just think that life has no meaning; we experience some events and as a result we say that life has no meaning. For example, this thought may come to our mind when we lose someone we love. And the situation becomes really painful. Additionally, when the rules we set for ourselves are not fulfilled, this thought (life has no meaning) may come to our mind. The rules we set for ourselves such as "If I cannot pass this exam, my life has no meaning, if I cannot rise to this level in my professional life, life will stop for me, if I cannot reach my goals, it means I am finished." and without even realizing it. Then we can't understand why we feel unhappy and we just say, I feel unhappy but I don't want to feel unhappy. We even say, I feel unhappy, but I don't know why I feel unhappy. The answer is thoughts. We feel happy or unhappy depending on our thoughts. Our thoughts, which we do not realize, govern our emotions. They immediately decide whether we will feel happy or unhappy.
Human beings sometimes underestimate their work and achievements. So sometimes a person is not satisfied unless whatever he or she does is absolutely amazing. In this scene, the person perceives himself as a failure, and the person who sees himself as a failure may feel unhappy. However, everything we do adds meaning to our lives. Everything we do, no matter how small or big, determines our life and makes it meaningful. We don't have to accomplish great things for our lives to be meaningful. Such responsibility does not belong to anyone. Just being alive is meaningful in itself.
As children, we may have been forced to achieve great things. Even though they do not say it openly, some parents impose on their children with their behavior that success is very important. Children achieve success The parents, who were extremely happy when they did so, did not openly tell the child to be successful, but they were extremely happy with the child's success and secretly gave him the message that it was very valuable. There are also parents who openly say that success is very important. For example, there are parents who keep saying that my son will achieve great things when he grows up. I hear a lot around me sentences like "my daughter/son will achieve this, it will be like this, it will be like that". We put huge burdens on small shoulders. When these children grow up, they become people who attach great importance to success and are also focused on achieving great things. We too can be one of these children. People have difficulty remembering their childhood. But stop and think for a moment, how important was success to you when you were little? What was your parents' attitude on this issue? If you were exposed to messages that you should be successful when you were little, you probably have thoughts of "I should be successful" in your mind, too. Or the opposite may have been the case. When we were little, we may have seen ourselves as worthless and tried to prove ourselves because our parents did not pay enough attention to us. As a result, we may have set ourselves the goal of achieving great things. We may have developed a perception that the way to be a valuable person is to achieve great things. Of course, there are also mistakes in our education system here. In the past, desks were divided into lazy, moderately hardworking and hardworking students in classes. I am one of the children exposed to this. Unfortunately, many children like me were exposed to this education system. In other words, we have been exposed to an education system that places excessive emphasis on success. And as a result of all this, we learned that if you are successful, you are valuable, if you are unsuccessful, no one will respect you, achieve great things so that you will be respected and thus prove that you are a valuable person. All this we learned put pressure on us. All this we learned created this anxiety in us: What if I cannot succeed, what if I cannot prove that I am valuable with my successes. Unfortunately, it is not possible to be successful under this concern. Because anxiety is an emotion that makes people forget even the things they know. Sometimes it can happen. The only way to manage this anxiety and unhappiness is to work on our thoughts and examine them.
A valuable person is not a person who has accomplished great things. Some people who were born may have left this world, they may have changed the world, they may have made the world a better place. But this does not mean that only these people are valuable. Every person born into the world is valuable. We don't have to have anything to be valuable. Being valuable does not depend on any conditions. Even if a person has not done great deeds or good deeds, he is valuable just because he is human. We cannot say that this person is a more valuable person because of the good deeds he has done or the wonderful things he has accomplished, we can only be grateful to him for his contributions to the world. Today's world, today's media, many advertisements, many movies unfortunately impose the opposite. They try to tie being valuable to many conditions. Let's take very simple shampoo commercials. According to the advertisement text, other theater actors look at the actor with admiration as he waves his hair. These advertisements contain messages such as having beautiful hair, being a valuable person so that everyone likes and respects you. The condition here is that your hair is beautiful. These conditions can be increased. Achieving great things may be a condition, or having beautiful hair may be a condition, but they all end in the same place: To be a valuable and respected person. This thought and the thoughts of life being meaningful or meaningless are actually interconnected. People who perceive themselves as valuable and who do not attribute the meaning of their lives to conditions will of course find their lives meaningful much more easily.
Hope we can realize that our lives are meaningful.
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