When we look at the development process of human beings, it should not be difficult to see that we work much harder than before, have more things, but are still more insecure and unhappy.
Courses are being opened all around us for everything. , books are being written, ten ways to be happy, secrets of finding peace, principles of influencing people, how to earn a million dollars in I don't know how long it takes... A lot of people say that everything is something to be learned and we can achieve it.
The law of attraction; Hundreds of strange books with the slogan "ask from the universe and get it". Everyone is trying to teach you how to be happy, rich or popular.
Buddha says, "The source of pain is wanting." The more we want and cannot have, the more we drift into unhappiness. While we are chasing after having some material things or gaining knowledge, we have missed the wisdom of life.
The criterion of happiness has become high salaries, brand clothes, and the number of friends on social networking sites.
Everyone wants more. He works day and night to get it. Human beings are constantly striving to have a beachfront summer house, a higher model car and to be admired more. We think that we will be happy when we become rich or popular.
If you have 10 houses, you can live in one, if you have 5 summer houses, you can go to one, if you have 20 cars, you can ride in one.
As the famous philosopher Montaigne said. "Even if you sit on the biggest throne in the world, what you are sitting on is ultimately your own ass."
All our life dreams are stuck between the goals of a house, a car, a high salary. We get so tired to achieve these that when we come home, we have nothing left to do other than collapse on the sofa and watch the same TV series or browse a few almost unchanged websites.
Instead of looking for happiness in the outside world and people, we do not try to look at our inner world. somehow.
We are becoming more and more lonely. While we are trying to chat and be happy with people we don't know and will probably never meet on the other side of the world, we don't have a friendly conversation with our colleague or neighbor right next to us. z.
What we get closer to is not souls, but only people from me.
Intimacies that end in love in a short time and where there is no need to meet again. When we get together, we have identical conversations that start with our lover who left us and end with our boss who annoys us.
Everyone hides their wounds, we present a me that we are not, and then we expect that lying me to be loved. The words of a famous singer that we cannot remember at the moment are floating in my mind: "The hardest thing for me is that I feel alone when I wake up in the morning, even when someone is sleeping next to me!"
I think life is not as difficult or complicated as it seems.
Famous psychologist A. Maslow says that a healthy person has 4 basic needs in his "hierarchy of needs".
Eating, drinking and sexuality are at the first level, shelter and being safe are at the second level, and love is at the third level. the need to be loved, to belong, and at the fourth level, to be approved and liked by society. He argues that the person who meets these four needs will continue his life as a healthy person.
Although it seems that everyone is trying to have these, problems arise when they exceed the limits. Obsession with excessive food leads to obesity, obsession with owning a house leads us to postpone life and become a workaholic, distortion of the need to be loved leads us to relationship addiction or changing lovers like changing socks, exaggeration of the desire for social admiration leads us to become someone we are not.
In summary, a happy life. for; I believe that a house, a full stomach, ENOUGH money to meet our basic needs, and time devoted to friends and hobbies are enough.
What we call life is all about 75 years. (If you're lucky, of course!)
I divide 75 years into 3; In the first 25 years, it was already childhood, adolescence, school, and you cannot understand what happened. You have been becoming a doctor for the last 25 years; You learn a lot about health, where is the heart, where are the kidneys, what is good for blood pressure. What remains is a healthy, conscious period of time between the ages of 25 and 50. We should not waste it on our ambitions, disappointments of the past, and worries about the future. As I said, life is in 3 parts and how do you live the most useful part? You need to think carefully about what you will do... If you can only get 1 out of 3 in life, what's the point...
A wasted life; If we don't want it to go through midlife crises, blaming others, and regrets, maybe it's time to sit down and reconsider our lives.
Even if life is lived forward, it can only be understood backwards. What have we experienced so far and what do we want to experience from now on? And most importantly, what will be written on your tombstone after you die that will summarize your life!!! I suggest you think about it.
I hope you live a life where you get 1 out of 3 from life.
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