First of all, by changing the perception of perfection. We are not perfect, just as no work we do, no experience we have, no daily life practices are perfect. We all have breaking points and moments when we get tired. We should be able to say that I am not perfect, but I am a good enough mother/father in my own way.
You should accept that your child is an individual from the moment he is born. "What does the child understand?" Stay away from stereotypes such as "The child should know his place." Remember that children's perceptions are very clear and many things that we are not even aware of are in their consciousness.
Draw your boundaries correctly. If he doesn't use your phone or listen at the door, don't read his diary or throw away his unnecessary toys without his knowledge. Respect and care about his feelings. "go calm down" "don't cry" etc. Instead of saying, I am aware that this situation upsets you. Affirm him and his feelings with statements such as "How can we solve this issue?" Instead of offering him a solution in relation to the previous item, show him the solutions and give him the opportunity to figure it out on his own. If he fails, when he turns around, always let him see that you are waiting for him for help.
Do not offer him endless opportunities. Don't overwhelm yourself with toys, coloring books and gifts. Give everything according to his needs. This will help him learn that everything has its own value and that nothing is gained easily. Remember that he will reflect everything he sees from you. Never forget that you are the first person your child takes as a model.
Spend quality time. Instead of sitting on the same couch and spending time on your phone or tablet, play games together, take nature walks, and read books together. Have common activities that you like to do together. Don't stay away from developments regarding your child's age group.
Finally, don't condition your love. Raise children who know they are loved and who are not afraid to love.
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