INTRODUCTION
Does it bother you more if your partner cheats on you by feeling emotionally close to another person or by having sexual intercourse with someone else?
The vast majority of women are against their partners. While they feel emotional jealousy, men feel sexual jealousy.
Jealousy is a negative emotional state experienced as a result of loss of relationship due to the presence of a rival or a threat to loss of relationship. (Mathes and Severa, 1981) Darwin, on the other hand, saw jealousy as an instinct to protect the relationship and said that it was necessary for them to pass on their genes to their offspring, to continue their lineage.
This article is based on the perspective of evolutionary psychology. gives answers to questions. NOTE: In psychology, different answers have been given to the answer to this question from different perspectives. These answers are only according to the theory of evolution.
Mate selection: What women and men look for
Evolutionarily, mate selection is not random; on the contrary, this choice is made according to certain factors. For both sexes, kindness and mutual love are the most important features in choosing a partner. However, the characteristics that women and men look for in choosing a mate vary:
Men put physical attractiveness first when choosing a mate.
Women, on the other hand, use both personal characteristics (ambitious, extroverted, intelligent, well-educated) and social characteristics (power, success, social status) in choosing a spouse. decides accordingly.
So what is the reason for this difference?
Parent Investment: Parents make some investments in their children so that their lineage can continue. Since women's investment is high, he is looking for a wife who will help him start a family, support him economically (the belief that ambitious and extroverted people are more successful) and will not abandon him by being devoted to him in order to raise his child in the best way possible. Therefore, it is more selective than men. Men, on the other hand, are physically attractive and see younger women as higher in fertility and continue their lineage by carrying their genes. He prefers them in choosing a wife because he believes that he can
Women: In order to raise her child in the best possible way, she is in search of a wife who will help her establish a family, support her economically, and will not abandon her by showing devotion to her. Therefore, she is more selective than men.
Men: Prefers physically attractive and young women with high fertility, with whom they can carry on their lineage by carrying their genes.
So, what is jealousy and why does it occur?
Jealousy: Why does it occur?
Why do men and women envy different things?
According to evolutionary theory, men are more jealous of their partner's sexual infidelity because doubts about paternity arise and the loss of a fertile partner to one of its “competitors”. Paternity doubts arise as to whether he is the real father of his children. As a result of sexual infidelity, there is a possibility that parental investments (material and moral investments) are made in someone else's child. This is jealousy; He is born because he prevents his own lineage from continuing by transferring his resources to one of his own descendants. Being a “single sexual partner” is very important for them.
Women, on the other hand, are more jealous when their partner feels emotionally close to another person. This is because the resources and commitment that men provide are at stake. Women expect commitment from him after they are very selective about their choice of spouse and find a partner who will provide both material and spiritual resources to him / her / child. However, if a man cheats on another woman by being emotionally close to her, all these resources are lost.
Jealousy: Beliefs
What we learn socially is also effective in the development of jealousy. Women associate sexuality with emotional intimacy, love, and affection, while men associate it with success, excitement, and physical relaxation. Therefore, differences in beliefs about sexuality also affect jealousy.
According to men's beliefs, women can fall in love with others without having a sexual relationship. If there is sexuality, women are also emotionally close to someone else. So, kadi They feel that they are cheating on them both emotionally and sexually. This means the end of the relationship.
According to the belief of women, men can have sexual intercourse without falling in love with another person. But emotional intimacy with another person is a real threat to their relationship.
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