It is important that their children are well-educated, go to good schools, have good professions, have good morals and good personalities, etc. It is the common wish of all parents.
But parents must do it correctly when guiding their children to realize these wishes. Excessive pressure, creating constant future anxiety in children, drawing disaster scenarios for them if they do not study in the desired schools, constantly emphasizing that they will not be accepted in society if they do not have the right personality and morality, and causing your children to have many concerns about their future and themselves due to the references they constantly receive from the environment in their brains, even if you are not aware of it. This will increase anxiety and pave the way for many mental disorders that will occur during adolescence and adulthood. Even though we do not dictate to them, our children are constantly learning about social media, television, school, teachers and the conversations around them, how not getting into a good school will affect them in the future, how even if they get into a school, the fight for life will be very difficult among many rivals, problems in relations with opposite sexes, how to be accepted in the social environment. They receive and internalize the feeling that they need to strive for their future and so on, and they experience a lot of fear about their future while they are still very young. And fears and anxieties that start in childhood bring with them various psychological problems and even psychoses in the future. And if parents, the people they trust and look up to the most, trigger these concerns in them, they are taking the first steps towards the child or adolescent becoming an anxious, angry, aggressive or withdrawn person.
In addition, the academic efficiency of a child who tries to learn with anxiety and fear will fall below its normal capacity. In other words, the situation where parents say "my child is having puberty problems" will be triggered. This will cause parents to become more aggressive and oppressive, and as the parent acts aggressively and oppressively, the adolescent will become more problematic, that is, a vicious circle will begin. trying to understand, The best approach is to do research and practice with them, read books together, have family game and chat hours, find ways to make learning fun, realize what their concerns may be and try to reduce these concerns. All parents try to help their children survive when they are alone. But while doing this, it is necessary to show the child the right paths by setting an example without worrying him, and by giving him peace and pleasure without dictating him. The result of being stubborn with a teenager always results in discomfort for both parties. The most important thing is to be an example to our children. Because their first role models are parents, and a parent who does not implement the behavior he dictates to the child will never be successful in guiding the child.
Instead of a worried, anxious, confused young person with various psychological problems and prone to psychosis, a happy, peaceful, self-confident researcher We should aim to raise young people.
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