Boiled frog syndrome refers to the emotional exhaustion you feel in a situation in which you think you are trapped. There must have been times when you continued to endure the situation until you burned out with exhaustion.
Boiled frog syndrome can cause you to stay in a vicious circle that constantly gets worse until you become mentally and emotionally exhausted.
Regarding this syndrome, French writer and philosopher Oliver Clerc explains this using simple language: has written an explanatory story about the syndrome.
According to the story, if you drop a frog into boiling water, it will immediately react and jump out. However, if you put the same frog in cold or warm water and do not scare it, it will just stand still. As he slowly heats the water from below, the frog does nothing against the rising temperature and begins to enjoy it. As the temperature rises, the frog will become so drunk that it will not be able to go out. Even though there is no obstacle left to escape, he cannot escape and gets boiled and cooked. Because the frog's nervous system is programmed for sudden changes, not slow and gradual changes.
As a result, most of the frogs are boiled to death because they cannot perceive the "change" they are going through, or rather, they become complacent and relaxed.
Based on this story, emotional deterioration in us humans is not noticed because it is slow.! Because a person may not be aware of the situation unless it shows sudden developments. And over time, he begins to adapt to this, and as a result, he may not know where and when to react. In this sense, boiled frog syndrome can occur in many cases.
Work, family, romantic relationships, social and social life may be areas where we experience this situation.
And this story is also a very good example to show us how people and societies remain unresponsive to changes that are implemented unnoticed.
As humans, we do not have the habit of taking action without sudden changes in our lives or without a serious and sudden change. If the water is slowly warming up, we cannot move from our place, on the contrary, we will fall into complacency. We relax. And in the deception of confidence that this comfortable environment provides us with, we become lazy and cannot think about the future.
Later on, when addiction, pride, selfishness or demanding behavior gradually begins to emerge, it may not be understood how difficult the situation is. In fact, in this situation, it may make you feel good that your partner, mother or father, boss or best friend needs you, trusts and assigns you certain tasks, and constantly needs your attention.
But over time, this demand reduces your profit reaction and reaction time. It can drain all your energy and ability to see that this is not normally a healthy relationship.
So, what can we do in such a situation? Let's talk about this a little bit..
First of all, you should keep your eyes open to life and people and make a conscious effort to understand what you want. Because this is the first basic rule of taking control of things that distort your perceptions.
When the people around you start to pursue their rights and see that you value yourself, they will of course be disturbed by this situation. You ask why? Because they are used to you being the one to comfort them, and the fact that you show interest in yourself is not something they welcome.
Finally, remember this! Sometimes stop something! Remember that saying 'this is the only thing you can do to guarantee your own well-being and to preserve the love and value you feel for yourself!
Yes, I am aware that what I have said and this path we are on towards growth may be difficult and a little disturbing. You may be right about this, but you will not believe that the result of this change will be priceless for you.
Always believe in your own power and don't be afraid to change!
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