What is guilt? Is it just a feeling? Or is it a set of emotions that a person who has inadequacy, helplessness and fear strikes himself at every opportunity?
Guilt is the whole of life for a person who always carries it with him. Feeling guilty is different from other emotions. It is not just a feeling that is felt and passed. Please let's agree on one thing. Everyone feels guilty from time to time, but it is very different when it spreads to life, the first priority is emotion. What we're going to talk about here is feeling guilty in every aspect of this life...
Guilty spreads throughout life, spreads to preferences for people who feel it all the time.
Guilty had siblings. The closest one is incompetence, his friend is fear, his comrade is too much responsibility, his refuge is not being able to say no-not being able to draw boundaries. I don't have the right to this, I embrace everyone, I be kind to everyone, I did everything so that he would not be upset, I become happy by making others happy, I take on myself the things that others should do and many more... If there is a crime or a mistake, it is always Is time yours? Are these sentences familiar to you?
How did a person become such a difficult set of emotions? The answer to the question is not today, it goes back much more.
I guess this is the main question. Let's look at the most basic together..
A little baby who has just opened his eyes to life should feel that his existence is valuable. A young child who has just risen should be able to feel free within certain limits. The child should feel safe both physically and mentally. He should not think that the negativities in external life and home life are related to him. All adults in a child's life need to take their own responsibilities. As an individual, the child must be “see”, “heard”, and his “emotional and physical needs” must be met.
This is where guilt starts to form. If a young child is emotionally and physically neglected by his parents, if he is not given age-appropriate stimuli, if his individuality is not respected, he is not even seen as an individual. you feel guilty. Not making a baby feel “valued” feels guilty. Although not feeling valuable and guilt seem to be very different emotions, the emotion we call guilt is actually "inward anger". Introverted anger is when a person gets angry with himself in every process, does not offer the flexibility to make mistakes, and does not feel valuable. When it all comes together, guilt arises. If feeling guilty is a house, the foundation of this house is introverted anger. The things in the house are the feelings I just mentioned.
The guilt that spreads through life first kills one's own worth. As one becomes the most worthless thing in one's own life, others begin to be exalted. Anger does not come to the other, if there is something to be angry about, the person gets angry with himself. Guilt destroys all boundaries. Saying no, drawing boundaries becomes difficult and sometimes impossible. Guilt is reflected in the body as well. The body becomes more and more worthless, it begins to deteriorate in one's own eyes. Nutrition is disrupted, overeating or not eating at all occurs. When a person values himself and stops turning anger into himself, he feeds both his body and his soul.
Guilt is not such an easy feeling.
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