Our mind starts to filter from the moment of first encounter in order to obtain information quickly and easily. There are many stages of mutual communication and our brain collects information quickly and unconsciously. The mind's need to categorize is a vital function and not a voluntary and planned reflex. But when does communication between two people begin? It starts the moment we notice each other. Yes, there is a communication that starts only when we see each other, without the need to talk, make eye contact, shake hands, or meet. Communication includes many verbal and non-verbal clues. We quickly read the contents and start collecting information about the person in front of us. The most striking of these information are age and gender. We examine our behavioral repertoire and quickly deduce our communication patterns, depending on whether the person we meet is male or female, old or young. For example, if we are communicating with a child, our voice body language will differ, and it will change in the same way with an elderly person. In the business world, if we examine our behavior patterns or attributions when we see a senior executive woman, we can find ourselves in many attitudes questioning the difficulties of working in such a position or whether the woman can manage this position properly. While categorizing and gender stereotypes, it is not possible for us to not function in our lives. Of course, the phenomenon that biologically separates men and women brings along many stereotypes socially. What do women want, what do men want, what do women like, what do men like, what job does a woman do, what job does a man do... Scenarios written about the colors of their clothes, their toys, the way they sit, the content of their speech, and the future plans of a girl or boy who is a little baby. There are, of course, things that separate men and women biologically. Like men have better visuospatial memories than women's. For example, brain activities such as the woman's ability to better capture verbal and non-verbal clues. But we are not independent of many social facts that feed this differentiation. men It is possible for the toys bought for children to play to improve their visual-spatial memory, or for girls to develop in verbal or non-verbal communication to fulfill the patterns expected from them in order to meet their needs for belonging, being loved, and being accepted. Our biological differences and different abilities can emerge as a result of many experiences.
The patterns and teachings for the distribution of duties are clear even in marriages. A talented man in housework can be a subject of humor. The wives of men who cook well are very lucky, but for women who cook well, this is a must-have. There is also the responsibility of a big house with the teaching of "I do not make my wife work". It puts men under pressure and many men carry the burden of a whole house on their backs alone. However, because of this teaching, many marriages are tested with financial inadequacy. Those who cannot be given a girl because they do not have a proper job, those who come from the culture of 'men don't cry even though they suffer' and see emotional discharge too much, those who overload themselves for the future of their children and the livelihood of the house when they become fathers… The fact of 'gender' is unfair to women in many areas. It suppresses many human feelings of men and does injustice. For example, a man who does not have a job and whose wife is working is considered strange, and we see the news in the newspaper headlines with the title of "father who did not pay the debts went insane". It falls to the man to protect the honor of the woman, and he may feel inadequacy even in a sexual attack on his sister, wife or child. On the other hand, for the woman he loves, he threatens her with death by saying "either mine or your land". On the contrary, the compulsions make the woman tired.
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