With the start of school, school phobia and separation anxiety, which can be experienced especially in the kindergarten and primary school periods, are also frequently heard. We are not actually talking about the adaptation problems that may occur in the first few weeks here. We are talking about children who do not want to go to school, who have a stomach ache or a headache in the morning even though they do not have a physical illness, who refuse to attend classes unhappy and with tears in their eyes, who even experience crying and tantrums, and of course mothers who wait at school with anxious eyes. Mothers and parents who are so full of anxiety that when they are not allowed to stand on the floor or in front of the door, they can sneak in from parts of the school that no one even knows about.
The child is like a white page. It takes and absorbs whatever is at home and in the environment; This includes the concerns, anger and fears of the mother, father and even the elders of the family. At this point, a vicious circle begins. The biggest underlying reason for school phobia is that the separation anxiety and addiction in the family comes to life in the child, because this process is bilateral.
Overprotected, raised in a bowl, always getting everything he wants, "no" Because they know that they are not the only stars and when the time comes, tears can help. When they see that it doesn't work, they feel insecure with the emptiness they fall into that they can't understand. As they see the expression on the faces of their elders waiting for them at home or at school, disaster scenarios about what they left behind or something bad will happen to them are reinforced, and they have difficulty in adjusting to school. However, school is a small model of life. In each classroom, different families have different children. Therefore, each of them has a different perspective. While these children are preparing for life outside when they start school, they learn to meet at the middle point, that happiness is not the only feeling, that they cannot always have everything they want, that they alone cannot win, that losing can also be instructive when necessary, about sharing, how to control their anger, about the benefits of taking responsibility and achieving with one's own effort. self-confidence They will also experience it. So let's meet at the middle point. After accompanying your child on the first day of school, leaving him to his teacher, feel the smell of the coffee you will soon drink in your nose as you return home with the pride of having started to become autonomous.
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