In line with the sources I have read, the people I have met while working as a physician, and the experiences I have gained from my observations in various areas of life, I can summarize my thoughts about happy couples as follows;
Happy Couples …
- They are not in trouble in terms of food, clothing and shelter needs.
- They have universal human values, love the society they live in and respect different lifestyles.
- Individual differences. and welcome talents and encourage each other to express differences. In this way, different talents of each of them emerge and each of them tries to realize their ideals as much as possible.
- They appreciate each other's good behavior and reward each other when necessary.
- They are close in age. Especially in couples' first marriages, the age difference; It is not at a level that would create a generation gap or cause disdain.
- They consider good character and good temperament more important than appearance, rather than anything else.
- In order to keep family ties strong, They take care to spend quality time together.
- They respect each other's family roots and relatives, they do not speak against each other, they do not try to separate their spouses from their family and relatives.
- They take each other's physiological and psychological needs into consideration. . They do not use work and career concerns as a basis for postponing their human needs.
- They are aware of their personal responsibilities in the environment they live in and try to fulfill their responsibilities.
- They work for each other's well-being, do not envy each other and do not undermine each other.
- The family they have established / will establish has short and long-term goals. To achieve these goals, spouses voluntarily join forces.
- They constantly strive to improve their problem-solving and coping skills, which are necessary to solve family problems.
- They do not insult each other, They interact with each other with care and love, and the idea that "they are a valuable and loved person" constantly develops between spouses.
- For a long time. They do not get offended, their communication channels are always open, they tell and share their pain or joy with each other.
- They have the ability to joke and joke about daily life in the family.
- They do not have trust problems, they keep secret secrets. they have no job. They are transparent in the virtual environment, in their circle of friends and relatives, and in their business and social lives. They do not feel the need to hide their phones and computers from their spouses and children.
- When they are angry about something, they freely express their thoughts and feelings to each other in an appropriate tone of voice and without insulting, and they try to find solutions to problems.
- They do not keep bringing up the annoying events that happened in the past as if they were "praying for temcit". They try to solve family problems with a democratic attitude within the conditions of that day.
- They do not scold each other for an argument in the presence of acquaintances or strangers, they do not try to teach or discipline each other.
- In difficult times. They increase solidarity and try to find common solutions to problems (e.g. accident, illness, unemployment, financial difficulties, death of a loved one, social crises…).
- They warn each other about harmful habits and if there is an addiction, seek treatment. They support them.
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I wish all couples to live a healthy, happy life full of respect and love.
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