Some days you may have used or heard a sentence like this many times: “I'm not in a good mood today, but I don't know why!” Meaningless boredom and malaise do not actually appear out of the blue. As a psychologist closer to analytical schools, I interpret this situation as follows: Lack of defense mechanism.
Freud, the ancestor of psychotherapy, argues that every person has certain defense mechanisms. These mechanisms are activated by the unconscious in order not to lose self-esteem in challenging internal or external situations that a person encounters. For example, reflection. The projection mechanism is when a person attributes to other people any characteristic or experience that he or she does not approve of. A person who lies frequently, thinks that the people around him often resort to lying, or a person who gets angry at the boss at work and takes it out on others, activates the "displacement" mechanism.
Sometimes you may encounter situations in your life that you are not happy with or that will damage your self-esteem. An issue that may seem very unimportant at the time of the incident may appear as malaise and unhappiness a few days later. Delayed reactions and emotions are actually stored unconsciously without realizing it and slowly make their way to our consciousness.
If you feel unhappy or out of sorts and claim that you don't know why, you are wrong. Because a person knows his problem, but sometimes he does not want to be aware of it. Even though it is uncomfortable to face problems, it is very important to learn the necessary life lesson, accept the existence of that problem, and make yourself accept it with the right defense mechanism. After a while, people who do not use their defense mechanisms correctly; They begin to feel lack of self-confidence, social phobia and insecurity, and there is a risk of losing their self-esteem.
Do you know what we can do for our self-esteem?
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Realize your feelings. There are many emotion diaries in app stores for this. Daylio, Question Diary are a few of them.
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Realize your shortcomings and work on them; Get professional help if necessary.
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Don't try to be perfect. Perfection is a relative concept and everyone's definition is different. ır.
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Accept yourself as you are. (With your mistakes.)
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