Our children are our most valuable assets. Of course, we try to offer them the best we can from their birth, but I guess what the best is is relative. I'm talking about an effort that can start even before having a baby. We have already become parents when we begin to prepare for them physically, spiritually and socially.
What is most important? Is it health? Can he get a good education? Well, financial opportunities.. Above all, I believe that a child who can only enjoy his parents will be happy and self-confident even if he is deprived of all the advantages listed. Giving love to the child and teaching gratitude is the biggest investment a family will make for their child.
How the world is, the necessity of having enough or more opportunities, the possibilities of raising one or more children are all relative and compelling considerations, the main thing. Whether you have enough love and patience..
From the moment a child falls into the womb, your child's life is shaped according to how you have lived your life up to that point, your way of thinking, the toxins you have taken into your body or the toxins you have avoided. Although it is not always possible to be protected, is it possible to stay away from physical toxins by doing our best, and to stay away from psychological toxins by being more grateful in our lives? Before you say you don't have regular sleep, look at your own life. Raising children is actually one of the personal development steps for adults. In order to make a truth a habit for a child, you must first set an example for him. In other words, if an adult smoking cigarette says, "Look, if you smoke, I'll get mad at you, I'm sorry, we did it, don't do it" doesn't work, then the words of the parents who eat the food they say unhealthy, who say study but don't read, who say go to bed and watch TV themselves, will not be effective either. . Even if he does it by force at that moment, he will apply what he sees when his preferences are formed.
Do not say that the child does not understand, be careful what you talk to next to him. It is not polite to show negative examples and say that he should not do so, or you cannot get angry when he is wrong. Children copy; just be an example..
Is it difficult or are you making mistakes? That's what mothers do, don't say you can't interfere with fathers. "You're right, that's not true and I'm not happy with what I did, I'll try to fix it, thank you for reminding me" is the right approach. Apologizing is not a weakness. It is a great weakness to put oneself in a perfect and untouchable place.
Love yourself and take care of yourself, because man is a selfish being. If we claim that we make sacrifices without loving ourselves first, this actually contains the following message; “I do it for you, you do it for me”. Every individual who loves himself and tries to increase his value is actually preparing a good life for his current or future children. Confident that food and health are in Allah's will, stop worrying about this issue and focus only on the task given to you. JUST LOVE YOUR CHILD AND SHOW IT WITHOUT ANNOUNCEMENT AND WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS.
Remember that the greatest gift a mother can give to her child and family is to be healthy. Because the mother is the umbrella of the house; she protects from sun, rain, mud, wind. Even if she says "my child first" with maternal instinct, the main thing is the goodness of the mother first. Put on your oxygen mask first, because if you lose consciousness, you can't do anything for your child anyway.
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