We have all felt the pressure of others many times in our lives. Before we say or do something, we have thought about what other people will think or say about us as a result of our behavior, or we have been made to think and warned.
Others take part in our lives as a critical and hindering factor rather than being a supportive, motivating and beneficial one. shouldn't take it. What does it mean to look around uneasily to see if an acquaintance sees you, or to worry about whether the neighbors saw or heard?
Doing something wrong without anyone seeing or hearing it does not make it right. If a wrong thing is done consciously, instead of trying to prevent anyone from seeing or hearing, it is necessary to have the courage to say yes, and think in a way that "whoever hears, let who sees, let who sees, see". Every action we take is bound to bind us. Once we do what is right and good, it does not matter what anyone else says.
In addition, there is a crowd of people who comment on everything and make even you doubt, who are not interested in their own lives and try to interfere with the lives of others. Unfortunately, the group also exists. Unfortunately, the number of people who are forced to do things they do not want to do (get married, resort to harmful means to lose weight, etc.) because of these people, who are forced to do things secretly even if they have done nothing wrong, and who have a very difficult time is not small. For example, many people have heard sentences similar to the following: "How old are you? Aren't you getting married yet? They will say, 'He stays at home.'", "Of course, go, but be careful not to let anyone see you.", "You must pass the exam, don't criticize me, lest people say you failed.", "Oh, that's a lot." "You've gained weight, that's not possible." "We need to change the furniture now, so that the neighbors don't see the house like this when they come.", "People's mouths are not a bag so that they can be puffed up", If they hear this, we will be embarrassed, we will not be able to go out in public.", "Oh no, now they will talk about us behind our backs.", and many other sentences similar to these. Example: Getting into debt and buying the latest model phone, car, or expensive clothes even though one's financial situation is not sufficient is because others think well of oneself. The range of examples is very wide: countless examples can be given in every field, from hair/clothing style to career choice, we are exposed to examples almost every day (life
So why is it so important what other people say/say, what they talk about behind our backs, what they think? Another important question is: Why do people not only care about their own lives, themselves and their own problems, but feel the need to constantly monitor and talk about others? Moreover, when people who interfere with things that are not their duty are reacted to, or when it is stated that it is not their duty, they perceive this as an insult and are very surprised by this reaction. In fact, normally, “What's it to you?” They cannot answer the question. We have all surely come across such people. We should not pay attention to people who negatively affect us psychologically and disturb our peace, and we should keep them away from our lives.
Unfortunately, to a large extent, successes and good deeds are not appreciated, and mistakes are exaggerated, as if there is nothing to criticize.
The irony is that most of the people who make comments about others, criticize others, and whose focus is on what others do, do the things they criticize themselves, most of the time they are not aware of their own mistakes, the things they condemn will happen to them one day, and when a friend and neighbor do it, the bad thing is recognized. , reputable etc. When someone does it, they still applaud, support and praise that person.
What is right? Instead of being so involved in the lives of others, everyone should be interested in their own lives and what they do. While there are so many problems in life, it is extremely unnecessary and wrong to care about someone else's hair, clothing, marriage and school.
Of course, every society has norms and the importance of these norms in organizing life is great. Of course, those who do not act according to the norms should be restricted and subjected to sanctions in order to maintain order in society. However, as long as it is not against the law, conscience or morality, others can comment etc. on what is done. It should not be done, and people who do it should not be feared, should not be taken seriously, and should not be allowed to disrupt peace and order or cause harm. People who are not taken seriously will eventually give up this attitude.
The best way is to guide people who make mistakes with a constructive attitude, accept acceptable mistakes and try to win people over.
Every human being does not think about the good. Must have the ability to choose and make the right decision. It should be done willingly and from within, not under the pressure of others.
Otherwise, the life we live will cease to be our own life.
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