You are in a relationship with someone in your professional or private life, and the other person's wishes, controlling behaviors, and demands are endless. You unconsciously think that in order to keep him in the relationship, you have to meet his demands and that what you don't want done to you is not so important. Or, the statements and behaviors that you want not to be done are repeated over and over again. Emotionally, you often experience negative feelings such as disconnection, sadness, and worthlessness. The relationship progresses as if there is only "He" rather than "We", that is, two people. In this case, it may be time to step out of your comfort zone and change the way you communicate and put it into practice. This initiative should not be confused with "Aggressiveness". Aggressiveness causes hurt feelings and cracks in relationships. Passivity, on the other hand, causes suppression of emotions, withdrawal, and eventually anger. People in the relationship should know that they can have different thoughts and values as well as common thoughts and values, and the main issue is not the conflict but how the conflict happened and ended. Healthy conflict is one of the elements that add balance and value to the relationship.
Being able to express our wishes with determination in communication, being able to say "No" to the discourses and behaviors we do not want, and applying this resolutely is actually a work of drawing boundaries. It motivates the person we are in a relationship with and directs the relationship in the direction of "We". It gives the feeling that if our limit is exceeded, there will be a cost. In fact, we all have physical, economic, intellectual, and emotional prerequisites for entering into a relationship, even if we are not aware of it. If the conditions are met, an agreement is formed and the relationship begins. In the future, problems such as insensitivity to the other person's feelings, inconsistency, not paying attention to their wishes, and not respecting their boundaries may arise. we were able to say "No" to the exceeded limits� When we, and can apply it with determination, we ensure that our stance on the subject is taken into account by others, that is, we motivate the person in the relationship and give the relationship a direction in which we participate. protects them from being part of the mechanism of maintaining the mental problems of others. We experience less anxiety and depressive feelings mentally. We can deal with emotional negative emotions without showing violence or escapism. The main advantages of this form of communication are less negative affect, better quality relationships and higher self-confidence. On the other hand, not expressing wishes can be associated with excessive sensitivity to criticism, avoidance behaviors, anxiety turning into a habit, and a decrease in one's self-confidence, because a person whose needs and boundaries are not taken into account in relationships may become only a means of meeting individual needs for the other party. A person whose limit is often crossed may lose track of their purpose in life and reason for existence in the long run. May experience feelings of worthlessness. When not being able to express and implement their wishes turns into a habit, people doubt themselves and begin to hesitate to take action. He sees the results of an attempt he plans to make much more negatively than it could be and runs away. He hesitates to make new intellectual and behavioral experiments and may cause other people to determine the course of his life.
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