Recently, we often come across posts of deception and deception on social media. The concept of deception has a very broad meaning. Situations such as lying, knowing but not telling, not fulfilling one's promise, having emotional relationships with others other than the person with whom one has an emotional relationship, flirting with more than one person, and having sexual intimacy with someone other than the person one is with are included in the definition of cheating. However, in general, the cheating that occupies our minds is emotional and physical cheating. So why does a person cheat on the person he loves with someone else? There are many studies conducted on this subject. Among these studies, the neurobiological ones are studies involving the hormones vasopressin and oxytocin, which are found in both genders in recent years. These hormones are also called commitment and loyalty hormones. Studies have shown that people with normal or above levels of these hormones live monogamously, while people with low levels have an increased tendency to cheat. In brain imaging studies, especially in men, while monogamous and polygamous men experienced the same degree of stimulation in the brain (especially in the occipital region) to sexual stimuli, differences were observed in the reactions to romantic stimuli. The brains of monogamous men have been shown to be more responsive to romantic stimuli. In the light of these studies, you can get an idea about the future of your relationship by doing brain imaging and hormone tests on the person you will be with. But will this be a completely accurate prediction? Of course it won't happen. Otherwise, these analyzes may become like relationship fortune telling. The nature of cheating in relationships is not determined only by hormones and the brain. The beginning, beginning and course of the relationship are all parts of this process. The experiences a person has had since childhood and the life events he has encountered will psychologically affect all his future relationships. It will not be that easy for a child who has witnessed cheating in his/her own family in the past to progress healthily in his/her own relationships when he/she grows up. A person who has previously experienced the trauma of being cheated on should take a skeptical attitude in their next relationships. Ace is quite possible. Is cheating human nature? Or does the fear of being deceived push us to this nature? Our existence drags us into relationships and the nature of connection in order not to be alone. Then, why does an organism that wants to bond act otherwise and engage in the act of deception? Abandonment brings fear of commitment; fear of attachment breeds fear of loss; A person who does not want to face the fear of loss refuses to become attached and as a result tries to psychologically detach himself from that relationship before the attachment occurs. Thus, the act of deception takes place. When we look at it from this perspective, the act of cheating is not a valid action at that moment. Cheating is not a human nature. Cheating already has its own nature. This nature includes attachment problems that the person has experienced in his past. In fact, the idea of cheating arises at the very moment when attachment is about to take place. Its action may occur much later. As I said, cheating is not a situation specific to that moment, in fact it already happened spiritually long ago.
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