Self-confidence basically expresses a person's perspective on himself, how he sees himself.
People who have positive feelings, thoughts and evaluations about themselves have high self-confidence; On the contrary, it can be said that people whose evaluations are negative have lower self-confidence.
Whether a person's evaluations of himself are positive or negative affects many areas in his life. The issue of self-confidence lies behind relationships with other people, one's expectations from oneself, one's reactions to mistakes or weaknesses, and attitudes and behaviors towards many other situations.
People with high self-confidence are comfortable accepting themselves as they are; they have a higher tolerance for mistakes or weaknesses; They are more successful in valuing and appreciating themselves; They are open to new ideas and self-improvement.
People with low self-confidence may see themselves as weak, inadequate or incomplete; their thoughts about themselves are critical and cruel; They cannot be sure of themselves; take fewer risks in social, professional or academic areas; They avoid being the center of attention or the target of criticism.
Although it is known that self-confidence develops mostly in childhood, there may be experiences that will improve or decrease self-confidence later in life.
When low self-confidence is considered, it is in the background. It is possible to say that it is mostly the person's overly critical and judgmental inner voice towards himself. In other words, no matter how it developed in childhood, the main factor that causes low self-confidence to continue is that the person continues to criticize himself mercilessly.
Therefore, in order to improve self-confidence, it is important to be aware of the negative inner voice and what we say to ourselves. It is not easy to be aware of self-critical thoughts. Especially if there has been a lack of self-confidence for a long time; Self-criticism may have become a habit, a routine in one's thoughts about oneself. Self-criticism directly affects emotions. So when we feel especially guilty, sad, angry, or angry, etc., it is important to keep track of these feelings, our self-critical thoughts, or It will guide us in staying.
The next step is to note them as you notice them. The next step is to question those thoughts, evaluate their suitability for reality, and transform them into appropriate ones for the situation with alternative thoughts.
This whole process requires a lot of effort and can be challenging for the person. Therefore, a therapy process, especially with the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy method, will be very beneficial for the person.
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