Naughtiness is explained by the Turkish Language Association as the state of being naughty. Being naughty is also defined as an inappropriate behavior or news.
Have you ever thought about what words you often use to your children?
Is 'Don't be naughty!' one of them?
When children first hear this word, they probably pause and think. 'My mother and father said not to be naughty, what should I not do or what should I do? 'I don't understand what to do!'
When we give commands to our children, which usually consist of abstract concepts, children code that behavior with that word. Therefore, mischief turns into a very large vocabulary.
Children generally become more active when they feel the need for affection, when they want to attract attention, or when they are distressed. If these actions are beyond our normal behavioral evaluations, we call them misbehavior. All parents want to have children who sit well and listen fully. In the event of a power struggle between families and children, complaints begin to arise from our children, whose actions are considered as naughty, disobedient and scolded for it. The concept that our parents sometimes forget at this point is that our children have the right to be naughty, provided that they do not overdo it within the boundaries of each family.
When parents' attitudes towards their children's mischief are evaluated, three character traits generally emerge.
The most common of these is aggressive behavior. It is taking an attitude towards the child without understanding his needs and sometimes using this attitude with the power of being an adult.
The second most common one is passive attitude. Again, the child's needs It is an attitude formed by not understanding the situation, remaining silent towards it, and acting as if it does not exist, as if everything it wants is done.
The third and less shown one is the trustworthy attitude. It is a combination of active listening to the child, getting to know them, understanding their needs and responding to them.
In our communication with our children, we create an environment where we clearly express what we want from them, where they can express their wishes clearly, and where we can show our understanding and love to them as much as possible. Believe me, it is not difficult at all.
I wish all of us days full of love and lots of mischief.
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