The parent or caregiver should give the child a sense of competence.
People who feel inadequate have a search for approval
Stating that the feeling of inadequacy is healthy up to a point Experts underline that it can turn into a self-confidence problem when it causes discomfort. Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir, who says that the root of the feeling of inadequacy goes back to childhood, warns families: “In order for the feeling of inadequacy to not develop in adulthood, families should keep their expectations at reasonable levels and give the child a sense of competence. However, for this, the parent must also feel competent.”
Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir explained how the feeling of inadequacy develops in the person and listed her suggestions for coping with this feeling.
Parents should be able to give children a sense of competence
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir, who said that the sense of inadequacy is healthy up to a point, said, “However, if it causes discomfort, it is a problem of self-confidence and addiction. The origin of the feeling of inadequacy goes back to childhood. A child does not have knowledge of what is sufficient and what is insufficient. This knowledge is acquired through social learning. The parent or caregiver should give the child a sense of competence. But for this, the parent must also feel competent.” He said. There is a feeling that comes with it.” Adding that the person who felt inadequate was faced with a higher demand than he could do in his childhood, Demir said, “Parents, teachers and family members who are not self-sufficient often have great expectations from the child. What the child did was not enough for them. If the child has taken a responsibility beyond his/her age in the development process, there is a high probability that he/she will feel inadequate when he/she becomes an adult.”
People who feel inadequate will think that their decisions will ruin their relationship. I think
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Merve Umay Candaş Demir, who mentioned that people who feel inadequate have problems with autonomy, said, “The ability of these people to do things on their own has been damaged. He thinks that he cannot determine his own future. He/she may perceive himself/herself as dependent. He sees his potential for success as low and feels insecure. He thinks that the decisions he takes autonomously will ruin his relationship. There is a search for approval.” He listed the characteristics of people who felt inadequate by saying. “In order for the individual not to develop a sense of inadequacy in adulthood, he or she should keep the expectations of families at a reasonable level in childhood.”
Emphasizing that accepting the feeling of 'insufficiency' is important in coping with this feeling, Demir said, It is necessary to assess whether there is a 'real' inadequacy, to set limits, and to review the standards one has set for oneself in a subject that one cannot do anyway.” He said.
When people see themselves as inadequate, they tend to become lonely
Stating that researches show that people with intense feelings of inadequacy perceive others as a threat, Demir concluded his words as follows:
< br /> “It is important not to compare with others, but to focus on ourselves. It is necessary not to be alone, to socialize. Again, according to studies, there is a high level of positive correlation between loneliness and inadequacy. In other words, when a person sees himself as inadequate, he tends to become lonely and hide himself. Being with others makes it easier for us to deal with this emotion. If you cannot cope with the inadequacy experienced despite all these, you can apply to a specialist for individual psychotherapy.”
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