Before starting the topic of enriching couples' sexual relationships, "Why is sexuality so
important?" Let's start by finding an answer to the question. Sexuality is one of the most basic instincts. Because
is the impulse necessary to ensure the continuation of our species. Sexuality is not only a biological need, it is also necessary for emotional and mental serenity. Sexuality has a great impact on improving the quality of life
. Touching is a very natural feeling and a need for humans. The comfort of touch, whether sensually or in different ways
gives the other person confidence, support, protection, affection and of course excitement
. People satisfy their feelings of insecurity and worthlessness during sexuality in order to be admired, desired, liked and accepted by the opposite sex. Other reasons include; People can use sexuality as a tool to prove their gender roles (femininity and masculinity). If the individual has grown up in a loveless family environment, he/she uses sexuality as a tool to receive this love from the opposite sex. A person who has been rejected sexually
in the past may be doing so to see themselves as attractive and desirable or to prove themselves
that way. Apart from these, “I want to be one body with my loved one. I want to get to know my partner
better. “I want to add new flavors to our relationship.” Sexuality is also important for the motivation to make the other party happy,
reward, and to experience excitement.
An individual who does not experience sexuality or whose sexual satisfaction is disrupted may not die, but after a while, his/her mental health may deteriorate. This disorder inevitably affects the closest spouse and lover first, then it expands to the public and affects family members and the entire social life. In order to reduce this effect,
it will provide spiritual calmness by regulating the person's sexual life.
Disruptions in sexual life are a source of distress
for the individual, rather than losing the sense of pleasure and satisfaction. Sexual problems cause people to experience feelings such as dislike, dislike, abandonment, loneliness, lack of self-confidence, humiliation, embarrassment, and inadequacy compared to others. Instead of getting carried away by these negative emotions
, the couple can start by learning the art of sexuality and enrich their sexual life. In addition,
it is necessary to realize the power of transforming sexual life, to learn how to use sexuality,
to reveal creativity and to be ready to revolutionize the way of thinking about sexuality.
First of all, The communication language of couples towards each other needs to change. The couple
is tired from work, but one of them wants to have sex and the other one is trying to say that he is tired
but the couple can get over this situation without causing any problems no matter how they say it. It will be useful to use
I language when explaining your situation to your spouse. In other words, it is necessary to explain your situation in a clear and non-judgmental way, express your feelings sincerely, and express your expectations. "You insist on doing the same thing every night. It never occurs to you that I might be tired, right?" instead of the expression
“I would be happy if you behave ............ in the situation of ............., you would make me happy.” It can be said like this and with a clear
expression: "I feel very tired this evening dear, if you want, let's postpone having sex until tomorrow." It can be said. As a result of the effect that the sentences said by the couple to each other will have on the other party
, the next day a more willing sexual intercourse will occur, but the husband and wife who are not understanding
will regret themselves and say "Look, he didn't understand my feelings again, when did he understand me?" Even if
there will be anger towards his/her spouse. This anger remains hidden inside the person, and one day, when it finds its way, it is reflected on his/her spouse. This projection can result in sexual reluctance, excessive shopping, not doing housework, lack of interest, nonsense, etc. It may be in the form. It is necessary to consider using the language of communication as one of the important points.
Since information has a reducing effect on people's anxiety, sexual anatomy and physiology education will prevent some myths that hinder couples' sexual relations. It is necessary to get rid of superstitions about sexuality, to know oneself and one's partner well, and to have healthy and accurate information. Because sexual knowledge reproach; By remembering personal desires and needs correctly, revealing the true sexual identity and facing the fears, this will no longer be a problem. For example, one of the most common myths is "Man always wants and is ready for sexual intercourse." Another myth is that "in sexuality
the man is the manager, he knows everything.", "the man initiates the sexual act", "Sexuality is nothing but the penis entering the vagina.", "Certain rules in lovemaking." "There are and these never change." There are ideas such as these that have been passed on from word to mouth and are definitely believed by the society
. These myths emerge as obstacles to people's sexual
lives, so that by researching the reality of these thoughts and asking experts, people can learn what they think is right and wrong, so that they can make their sexuality, which is on the wrong path, healthier.
Spouses can make each other ready for sexual intercourse during the day, instead of being an action that can only be initiated in bed. Since this turns into a planned action, it will be easier for the partners to receive the signals. When spouses leave the house in the morning, they should leave the house with nice words and skin-to-skin contact. During the day, messages, e-mails, etc. Writing or verbally expressing that he/she misses his/her spouse in various ways will increase the desire even more. Couples expect to know what they want without being told
. But without a sign or a word, no one can understand what is going through another person's mind.
When the couple, whose desires increase, talk about sexuality and tell each other about the body parts they like to be touched and kissed, this will further increase their level of arousal and will lead to
sexual intercourse. br /> they will enjoy it even more. Many couples communicate very little on sensual or sexual matters.
Typically, they are so inhibited that they cannot even say what they really want. Going beyond the usual
will always enable couples to keep the excitement alive in their relationships. Generally
change is expected passively as it is always expected from the other party. Leaving the routine and taking a step towards change will cause the other spouse to synchronize with it. apart Therefore, couples need to learn how to communicate with each other in order to increase the quality of sexual life and satisfaction.
Finally; The sexual behavior repertoire of couples is shaped over time, but couples continue their sexual lives with a limited
repertoire. The couple acquires new sensory behaviors experimentally and creatively, which increases as the sexual desires and needs of the couple are understood. Couples
should say to themselves, "What can I do that I think will give pleasure to myself and my partner?"
Be creative. Think about what you like. Talk to your partner and listen carefully to what
he/she tells you.
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