Currently, with the approach of the opening of schools, the common problem of most families is the struggle they have with their children in the process of going to school or the battle with the children in terms of ensuring attendance at school... Even though fighting and fighting is painful to the ears, unfortunately these ceremonies turn into these meanings. All families always think about the possibility that they will be exposed to these problems when schools open, and most of them experience them. The unchanging agenda of every September is at your doorstep. However, the real issue is not what we do immediately so that our child gets used to school or does not miss school and goes to school. Why do so many children and families experience the same things? If we look for an answer to the question of what we are doing too little or too much and why we are struggling with these traditional struggles, we will find more real ways to find a solution.
We blame children for not going to school, but the reasons for this are usually factors such as family, teacher, upbringing, wrong attachment, trust. . Imagine that your workplace where you have worked for years has changed and you have made an agreement with a rival company with which you have always been doing opposite work. Can they trust you immediately when you start working? Or how will you trust your colleagues? You came from the other side and you are marked. Also, the feeling that they will let you down at any moment and never let you down or even show a smiling face... Would you like to go to a place like this every day? Who would want that? Only someone who has learned how to deal with this and can use his ability to turn unfavorable situations to his advantage over time can continue here. This is the case with our children... We are suddenly left with the feeling of being abandoned somewhere in the name of school, and we try to get them used to it with fears and concerns without even understanding what is happening, without being adequately explained... How can these children love school? Moreover, there are child profiles that develop school phobia or try to be overly harmonious, have intense success anxiety, and are overly dependent on the family... Families have an important responsibility in finding the right setting for these situations that are dangerous at both ends. While your children experience the anxiety of a new life and program as they start school, one of the situations that affects them the most is that their parents also feel anxious. It is normal for a child who sees an anxious mother and father to experience more anxiety and show avoidance behavior. b about this Perhaps the first step is to examine the behavior of the parents. Parents who are with their children when they start school later turn into parents who do their homework and take their notes during school. In short, first of all, it is necessary to help the school understand that the child has a responsibility. Families who take on the child's school anxiety, school responsibilities, homework and grades do not give their children the opportunity for this responsibility.
Some steps that can be taken are;
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First of all, your child's fear of school, They should start by trying to analyze the underlying reasons of situations such as not going superficially, rather than superficially,
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Being an overly anxious family makes your child anxious. The child sees the world and the destination as dangerous and needs protection. The anxiety of the family can be transferred to the child, and giving the right reactions to your concerns and learning to manage your concerns is one of the biggest duties of teachers. . Behaviors of teachers that make the child feel accepted,
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In the first days, especially the child goes to school with the mother or father he trusts the most, creating awareness of a safe environment,
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But pay attention to the process, parents who stay at school for a long time are more worried that the environment is unsafe and my family is always here, gradually reducing the time,
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Do school shopping together. One of your main rules should be to quit,
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Teachers should not be described as a punitive element,
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Not to blame the child for his fear, to try to understand him and to approach him seriously.
In these and similar situations that you cannot overcome, you can get help from an expert who can work with you and your children. I wish good luck to all our precious parents. We wish our students a happy and successful new academic year…
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