Hello everyone, I'm Nur Sena ER, Psychological Counselor and Family Counselor. Our
topic today will be adults who were born but did not grow up. Because he cares about knowing the characteristics of these immature people who are around each of us, who sometimes make life difficult and sometimes we don't know how to react; I hope this article will guide us while living with them, sharing the same place, workplace, school, social environment. We hear that the word
immature, which means immature, undeveloped, is generally used for babies who were born prematurely and therefore have not completed their development fully. their cognitive and emotional development
can exhibit an immature structure. These adults generally tend to display inappropriate
behaviors according to their developmental level. In other words, even if their bodies complete their development and maturity
their emotional and intellectual mechanisms reveal a childlike pattern. For example, it is an expected behavior for a 2-3 year old child to be stubborn, to cry and to cause uneasiness by saying "mine" even to objects that do not belong to him, let alone wanting to share his toys, since he is in the "self-centered" period. Because the emotional-cognitive-mental capacity works just in time and shows us the effort of an organism that has just discovered its self to determine its own autonomy. However, if we started to see the same behavior in an adult in his 30s, not in a 3-year-old baby, a question mark should appear in our minds. Because the baby, who has just cut the umbilical cord from the mother, has long passed the stage of establishing a space and autonomy in the world, and we need to accept the responsibilities of adult life, exhibit behaviors appropriate to the requirements of these ages, such as coping skills, determination, reasoning, treating ourselves and others in an adult style. . If you see that the adult individual is still trying to get involved in things outside of his autonomous area and exhibits anger and destructive behaviors when he does not have the authority, he is against things that do not belong to him. If we realize that he is violating the rights of others while developing idiocy, we can think that we are alone with a "born but immature adult" who has the 3-year-old syndrome. The ages listed here represent the developmental periods that I have shared with you as an example. However, regardless of age, an individual in adulthood is expected to maintain his life by adapting the knowledge and experience that his age level brings and requires.
It is to what extent the person's current life experiences
guide his new experiences in accordance with the reality in his life. Otherwise
we assume that he/she may need an evaluation or even a consultation regarding his/her mental, emotional and cognitive capacity
.
In summary; the behavior that our age brings and requires, what we have experienced until today; that is,
is what is left with the correct interpretation of the information left by our experiences as heirlooms to us. I wish that we have the insight to at least have a maturity level that is directly proportional to our age and that there are more such people around us. Be kind to yourself, goodbye.
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