Family is the place where individuals learn basic behaviors and where people learn to communicate with each other. We have our first social experience within the family. The first communication begins the moment the baby enters the mother's womb. When the individual's needs for love, caressing, contact, nutrition and shelter are fully met by the caregiver, a "basic sense of trust" is formed. On the contrary, if the caregiver does not instill love and does not receive nutrition and shelter needs in place and on time. If play is not played when necessary, if there is a negative reaction or lack of reaction when crying, a "basic feeling of insecurity" occurs and may cause problems in the individual's bilateral relations in the future.
Children are quite transparent in opening and expressing their feelings. However, children who are silenced by their parents for their expressions are suppressed, and they begin to express their feelings and begin to hide them, as they perceive that telling the truth would be harmful to them. Children of parents who scold and criticize their children for their behavior, who do not care about their feelings and thoughts, who want and pressure them to have the thoughts and behaviors they want, grow up as insecure, worthless and anxious individuals. Children who are supported by their parents, whose feelings and thoughts are given importance and who are provided with an environment to express them, grow up as self-confident, enterprising and successful individuals in human relations.
Personality is shaped and formed throughout life. The communication we establish in our human relationships is shaped by our personality. Behaviors develop as a result of human communication. Behaviors are twofold; It is shaped as an attitude based on positive and constructive "love" or negatively destructive "anger" and "hate".
Negative experiences during childhood and adolescence convey the message of being unloved and unappreciated. Since a loved person will perceive himself with positive values, he will develop a positive self. A person who loves himself and is satisfied with himself will also love others, be tolerant of himself and others, and will not approve or adopt destructive and harmful actions. True love includes being moderate and responsible in people's behavior. Since it brings with it, there will be no excesses or inappropriateness.
A healthy family communication consists of the members understanding each other and creates a strong bond between them. In addition, children are taught correct communication. The presence of healthy communication within the family also positively affects the family's communication with other people. Individualism, selfishness, inability to share, anger, judgment, pessimism, and feelings of loneliness decrease. In such a family, trying to understand the other person, making decisions together, tolerance for mistakes and love are dominant. In relationships where healthy communication exists, there is no single authoritarian power. This power is shared by members at the appropriate place and time. It becomes easier to cope with crisis and stress in families that can communicate healthily.
When family members do not respect each other's rights, apply pressure, expose each other to danger, neglect each other, and do not show love, abuse and violence occur. This situation negatively affects the interaction within the family. If positive interaction is not established within the family, the family will fall apart and cannot survive. Age of the mother and father, readiness for marriage and parenthood, health levels of the mother and father, their respect and trust for each other, their upbringing, economic and social security, whether the child is wanted or not, their health level, gender, the time family members spend together, the place they use. Stressful events such as death and bankruptcy that disrupt the family are the main factors that affect the interaction within the family.
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