Woman; mother, businesswoman, cleaner, caregiver, organizer, balancer, manager, educator, wife, lover...
If women can take on so many tasks on their own, we must do our part and protect women as a society. We must protect their physical health, mental health, place in society, autonomy rights, security, being valued as human beings and other rights.
When it comes to women's health, the first thing that comes to mind is women's physical health. But mental health is at least as important as physical health, perhaps even more important.
Let's take a look at how much we expect from women as a society, these are the general perspectives in society, of course there are different views and behaviors, but the country we live in today general facts; She must be a good mother, a good wife, she must work if her husband wishes and support the household. If her husband does not want her, she must work at home and meet all the general needs of the house (cleaning, cooking, child care, order, etc. inside. Keeping track of children's school work outside, meeting bills and other household needs). , shopping), since the man's work is considered more valuable if he is working, he should come home on time and deal with all the above-mentioned tasks, prepare dinner, support the children's homework, clean up the mess, be friendly when his wife comes home in the evening and help her husband relax after a boring day at work. At the same time, she should always be a well-groomed and pleasant woman and ensure her husband's devotion to her by striving to be successful in sexual life, etc. It depends on the good physical health. What is a woman with bad mental health?
A woman who had a bad family life in her childhood (this could be one or more of these in the past, such as abuse, beating, excessive pressure, lack of value, lack of love, loss of a parent at a young age, financial problems, etc.) ), or think hard about getting rid of the family as soon as possible. It was a marriage that was made without marriage or an arranged marriage, or a marriage that was made willingly with big dreams, but over time, it became monotonous due to living conditions, financial difficulties, intense work schedule, children, etc., the spouses moved away from each other, their sexual life decreased, intolerances began, emotions began to develop, excitement, passion and The feeling of love is only my child's mother or father, we started this journey together, I can't let it go, family integrity should not be destroyed due to the values and customs of the society, etc. A marriage that has turned into a marriage that no longer satisfies both parties, makes them unhappy and uneasy, and expectations cannot be met.
Due to all of these, one or other reasons, women's mental health is seriously affected and deteriorated. First of all, the most common problems are Depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorders, Panic Disorder, OCD and similar psychological disorders. And the worst part is that most women are not even aware of the psychological problems they experience. Because they are often tired, unhappy, aimless, have accepted the life they live (learned helplessness), and are even more meticulous than normal, and have normalized these.
Most of the time, when they consult specialists, they have reached the final stage of their illness, which means that depression continues with suicidal thoughts, and the person gets out of bed. It means that situations such as not even wanting to go out, not being able to enjoy anything, begin to occur, obsessions cause irresistible discomfort, or panic attacks completely control daily life. A woman who has started to have a psychological disorder now lives her life like a robot, performs routine tasks in a monotonous, emotionless and unhappy way, and begins to not pay attention to her personal care, social life, health, and her own personal pleasures and needs. He does not have goals, objectives and desires that he wants to realize, or even if he does, he has suppressed them by locking them in a private room of his brain and has given up, perhaps because he believes that he cannot achieve them, or perhaps because he does not have the strength and courage to realize them due to the physical and mental fatigue he experiences.
Well, now he has given up on himself. How can we expect a woman who cannot benefit, who does not attach importance and value to herself, to be productive in business life, to raise children with good mental health, to be in good physical health, and to be beneficial to society and her environment? Is this possible?
Of course it is not possible. A woman with impaired mental health is constantly angry or constantly silent and demoralized, has decreased tolerance for her children and spouse, is overly oppressive or overly indifferent, is not motivated enough in business life, cannot focus, or has excessive work addiction, cannot enjoy her life, uses alcohol and tobacco. He has become someone who is prone to disorder and perhaps substance addiction, who constantly suffers from mood disorders (experiencing one or more of these situations).
So, what should be done in the face of such a clear situation? A conscious segment of the society, both on social media and in non-governmental organizations, is constantly working to increase the value perception of women in society. But it is obvious that this is not enough. Here, trying to change the value judgments of the society and the place of women in society is a correct but long-term goal. While achieving this goal, shorter-term solutions should be produced. The most important thing that non-governmental organisations, psychologists and educators should do is to create the perception that they are valuable through the seminars, advertisements and trainings they will give to women who experience learned helplessness because they fail to change their environment, to explain that they need to take steps to achieve the goals they want to achieve in life, to show that the routine unhappiness they experience is not normal and that this is It should be to make them understand that they need to change, to show them that they need to change some things in their lives, to make them know that an unhappy marriage, violence, harassment, or constantly doing things they are unhappy with are not their destiny, and to give guidance on how they can take steps in this regard.
While doing this, he managed to change his life. Giving examples of women who have turned their routine unhappiness into happiness and even having them as speakers or narrators in these seminars, trainings or social media activities will be of great benefit, and will create the perception that "she did it, I can do it too." It's never too late for anything in life. There are now many opportunities for a woman who was prevented from studying as a child to study at any age she wants, there are many courses, trainings and supports for women who have not been able to obtain a profession, sometimes we need to step into a change, dress a little differently to feel better, change our hair, put on some make-up and so on. Even sitting down and thinking about what we want in life, what we have done and what we can do can be a huge step towards change. Sometimes, just thinking that I exist in this life, I too have wishes and desires, I too need to feel happy and good is a step of change.
Let's not forget that only happy, peaceful, mentally healthy women are happy, peaceful and mentally healthy generations. they can grow.
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