One of the most important life events in the family that affects family dynamics is the pregnancy process. Pregnancy; It is a significant change, sometimes a stressor, and a process that affects couples and individuals. In addition to the physiological changes experienced by women during pregnancy, spouses also feel the need to adapt to the changing order psychologically and socially. Couples have to acquire new roles to prepare for the participation of the new family member, and this can be described as a period of developmental crisis within the family system.
With marriage, individuals begin to create their own family order. The inclusion of a new member in the family system, which is ensured by the adoption of husband-wife roles, establishment of harmony, and formation of communication patterns, may affect the quality of communication.
Disruption of the usual routine, increasing domestic responsibilities, sometimes making too much effort to be the "perfect parent" that society offers us; The decrease in communication between couples and the fact that spouses spend less time with each other can lead to communication problems.
Main Factors in Problems Between Couples
-The mother's physical changes, weight gain and 'my partner finds me as attractive as before' Encountering concerns such as 'Can I lose my weight?', 'Will I be able to provide adequate care and support?', 'Will I be able to raise my child in a healthy way?' , the change in the interest and attitude of the spouse and family members towards him/her.
-Postnatal sexuality is also one of the main problems. It is observed that many women experience sexual reluctance after the postpartum period. Disruption of sleep routine, state of fatigue, relationship-oriented life being replaced by a child-oriented life are important factors affecting sexuality.
-Increased mutual expectations; Both spouses may feel the need for more support during the adaptation process. The fact that spouses cannot support each other in this process and have to solve the problem alone has a significant impact on the occurrence and increase of communication problems. Additionally, such factors can cause postpartum depression in the mother. r.
Suggestions for Reorganizing Couple Relationships After Pregnancy
- Being able to see that the newly adopted roles and dynamics are elements that can reinforce love and that the new member joining the family is a part of your love, spending more time together. and not leaving the other parent out of the bond with the child will be an important factor.
-Adopting open communication by expressing mutual needs is an approach that can prevent the emergence of problems. Expressing it instead of waiting for your partner to guess what you need will not cause problems to accumulate and damage the bond.
-Being willing to talk more about feelings and thoughts. The best way for couples to understand each other is to be able to talk about their feelings and thoughts.
-It is supported by research that the father's active role in the baby's care reduces the mother's stress level.
-Planning private activities, separate from the baby. Of course, it will be difficult to spend time away from the baby at first, but entrusting your baby to family elders you can trust and taking a break with your spouse will help you remember the old dynamics and balance the relationship between lover and spouse as well as the role of parent.
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