Hand in Hand with My Baby

There are different approaches to holding the baby in the arms, which can confuse mothers. Some approaches are in favor of holding the baby as little as possible, which is generally to prevent the baby from getting used to being held and getting spoiled and to ensure that the mother is comfortable. Some approaches are just the opposite, they recommend mothers to live almost attached to each other for a long time, as if their babies were still in the womb. No single approach to holding the baby is actually correct; Because every baby and every mother-baby relationship is different, the important thing is to do this at a level that meets the baby's needs.

       Babies begin to express themselves from birth and even from pregnancy. They seek the presence of receptive parents who are willing to listen to them. Since both their social equipment and language skills have not yet developed, they actively use their body language to express their needs. Crying is the most effective way babies use to express themselves. So, what should we do when our baby cries?

Cuddling the Baby When He Cries

      In addition to the many positive contributions of touch to the child, it is also very important for both emotional intelligence and language development. It is a clear fact that it contributes. Babies need to bond. Especially in the first months, they need to receive a consistent and loving response to their cries. When it comes to showing love to your baby, never stop yourself. Every touch, every attempt to soothe your baby, every feeding, every rocking, every kiss, every show of interest and attention teaches him that the world he has just met is a loving, nurturing, good place. By doing this, you will help your baby internalize that contact with people is a relaxing and beneficial situation.

       Babies should be held whenever they cry, especially in the first months. The more the child is held and caressed, the better the response will be. It is now accepted that touch calms the child and increases the child's self-confidence. Caressing the baby, loving it, saying nice words shows that you love it very much and find it very beautiful. It makes you feel. Babies need hugs and skin-to-skin contact in order to embrace life safely.

       The mother's responsiveness to her baby ensures fewer problems in communication in the following months. It also helps the baby internalize the message that he will 'rest' when he needs it. It should not be concluded from this that the baby should be held every time he cries. In any case, holding a crying baby is an attitude that disrupts babies' routine, makes them completely dependent on adults, and prevents them from using their existing resources.

Babies' crying may also mean that they are protesting something. The baby should also be allowed to protest. When necessary, parents tolerating their baby's crying means seeing their baby as a separate individual and accepting their anger or disagreement. Some parents worry that if they don't go to their baby immediately when they cry, their baby will get the message that they've abandoned him or her. It is necessary to intervene in the baby every time he cries and help him calm down. A baby whose cries are not responded to for a long time may develop an overly sensitive stress detection system.

       It is very important for you to pay attention to your baby's cries and respond. Because in this way, he realizes that he has the power to get something when he needs it. In addition, seeing that you are trying to solve his problems will help him discover his value in your eyes, and this will bring him the self-confidence he needs. The way you soothe your baby after he becomes restless and cries shows that prosperity will come after the troubles he will encounter in life, and even when he grows up, he will cope with difficulties with this first thing he learned in his infancy.

If you immediately respond to your baby's cries and rush to his aid, within a few months. You will notice that you will start crying less. This will be an advantage for you as being a mother to a happy baby is much easier and more fun. Also, the sooner you offer remedies to your crying baby, the sooner you can stop his crying. You are late t Otherwise, it may take a long time to silence him, and even if he stops crying, his sobs will make both you and him uneasy.

Your baby, who responds early to his cries, learns that the only thing he has to do when he needs something is to cry. This certainly does not mean that he will be spoiled. On the contrary, it shows that he has developed a method to fulfill his wishes, just like an adult. After a short while, you will know him so well that you will understand and meet his needs before he starts crying. For example, mothers know that their babies like to be held as soon as they wake up. You can go to his/her routine waking hours and offer him the affection he wants without waiting for him to call you with his little screams. In this way, when your baby wakes up, he will feel more at peace knowing that you will visit him in a short time. You can both enjoy understanding each other. Studies on holding babies have shown that children who are held frequently, even for short periods of time, cry less. Start the research designed based on these results by examining at what time of day children are most restless and crying. Once the results of this first step have been drawn and charted, try holding the baby for a short time just before the time when he or she is expected to cry, and you will find that holding the baby for even a very short time will greatly reduce the crying during times of tension.

       Some mothers think that when their babies cry, they are disciplining them by leaving them alone until they stop talking. It is true that babies who see that no one comes to them when they cry stop crying after a while, but the negative consequences of this are much greater than the so-called benefits. Seeing that the mother, who has met all her needs for nine months, is distant from the outside world will make it very difficult for your baby to adapt to her new life and will also damage the relationship between you.

       When your little baby cries, you don't have to be in a dilemma about when exactly you should hold him/her. As soon as he cries, give it to him Your deaths. Try all the ways to calm him down. Eventually, you will discover the one that works best. Being there when he needs it is much more important than finding the most effective way on the first try.

Why Is My Baby Crying

Babies try to express their wishes and troubles by crying because they cannot speak. There are many reasons why babies cry. Some of these reasons include hunger, ear infections, stomach aches, gas pains, soiling the diaper, teething, the baby being overtired, and having a colicky baby.

What Can I Do When My Baby Cries Other Than Holding Him?

The babies of parents who constantly try to calm their babies by holding them in their arms without investigating the reason every time the baby cries, get used to being held. First of all, the cause of crying should be investigated and the baby's needs should be met. In addition, some suggestions that will comfort the baby, other than holding it in your arms, are as follows:  

Having the baby watch by setting up a loud, musical, moving toy that can be hung on the crib to keep him busy,   

Locating the baby by holding him in your arms when he is not crying,   

Calming the baby by drawing his attention to a different point,   

Trying to comfort the baby by stroking his back, giving a baby massage, etc.

Playing music in a low voice, singing a lullaby,  

Rocking your baby in your arms or on a swing, 

Showing an object that he/she loves and is interested in, 

Don't think that when your baby cries, all you have to do is silence him/her as soon as possible. First, try to find out why he is crying and ensure that the communication between you is established in the healthiest way possible.

Despite these, if you still cannot stop your child from crying and cannot understand him, getting support from an expert may be beneficial for the baby and the parents.

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