- COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN
Our children have two basic needs along with existence. These are love and trust. The best way to give this to our child is through proper communication. What should we pay attention to when communicating with children?
Being determined and consistent
The most important point we need to pay attention to in our communication with children is that we must be determined and consistent. We should not allow anything in the future that we do not allow for certain reasons, or we should not do a behavior that we consider wrong and harmful today, in front of our child. Children should not be left in conflict.
Unanimity
Spouses should cooperate in communicating with children. If one of the spouses says no, the other should not say yes, or if one of the spouses says it is right, the other should not say it is wrong. We should not create the perception in the child that my parents do not know the truth, so I should know it. You should discuss whether your opinion is right or wrong in an environment where your child is not present.
Not making promises
Do not promise your children to make them do a desired behavior.' Like 'If you wash your hands, we'll buy you chocolate'. If we make our children do something by making promises, we will get our children accustomed to bribing them for the rest of their lives.
Not reacting emotionally Instead of humiliating and insulting, we should explain to our child that that behavior is wrong and punish him for his behavior, not for his personality.
Not giving direction
Constantly guiding our children, Constantly giving commands about what to do, what not to do and how to do will turn our child into a programmed computer. In this way, children will have a hard time continuing their lives without their parents.
Ideally, we should be our children's life coaches and give advice and express the support that we will always be there for them.
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