Fear of Separation from Parent

Children who will step into school life for the first time may hesitate to even enter the classroom due to fear of school. It should not be forgotten that a new environment, friends and a completely new environment may cause fear and anxiety in the child, and this issue should be approached sensitively. In this process, parents and teachers have important duties.

Do not exhibit an overprotective attitude

Starting school means leaving home, that is, from the mother's lap; The child now has to try to exist on his own. Families that individualize their children and give them self-confidence experience fewer difficulties in this regard; The child has learned from the very beginning to fulfill his/her self-care and other responsibilities both inside and outside the home. On the contrary, children of parents who are overprotective, constantly act as if something bad will happen to their child, and thus cause the child to cling to them without giving responsibility, experience separation anxiety. Anxiety increases because school means leaving a new environment and a safe environment and being alone.

Explain school to your child with good examples

Children need to be explained correctly why they need to go to school. . Information should be given about learning new information, exploring different activities, and making new friends that will help them grow. When the school is explained, some children may react negatively, indicating that they do not want to go. In this case, it should be stated that the anxiety and worry is understood, and general answers such as "you will go, every child goes to school" should never be given. This will cause the child to respond more negatively and think that the parent does not understand him. Children love to have stories read to them and they identify with the heroes of the stories. For this purpose, reading story books and drawing pictures about children starting school will be supportive in this sense.

You can visit the school before the new academic year begins

Classrooms, cafeteria, toilets. Knowing the school environment in which the child will be constantly present, such as this, will provide the child with self-confidence for the first day. Trying to force the child to read and write during the preschool period can be a deterrent for the school and the child may become reluctant to go to school. This A child who is unwilling should not be forced. Shopping for school supplies together with the child and explaining which items will be used for what purpose can help the child gain a certain understanding of the school.

Pay attention to these to help your child get used to school and succeed in class

It is not right for parents to enter the classroom and give the impression that they are always with their child.

When the child cries and does not want to leave, he/she should be reminded that he/she should be individually in a safe and fun environment, as discussed before.

Sometimes, psychosomatic symptoms such as headache, abdominal pain, and nausea may occur during the adaptation period to school. In this case, calming the child down and providing an environment for him/her to talk about his/her school-related problems can relieve the child.

From the first day, play and study hours should be placed on a regular schedule. For this purpose, fun charts can be created together with the child that he/she may like.

It is important to arrange bedtimes. In this regard, you can make a poster together that he can hang on the door of his room.

It is not appropriate to go to school frequently and supervise the child. Because parents and children are separate individuals. It is necessary to be able to see and show that school responsibility belongs to the child.

The study environment is important. The child should study in a simple and quiet environment with his book, notebook and pen on his desk, away from stimulating factors such as computers and television.

In order to support him in studying individually, he should stand next to him and show him how to do it, and then he should be expected to do it. . The child needs support and to see that he can trust his parent when he is hesitant.

It will be supportive to be patient when teaching him something, to stay away from damaging words, and to use words such as "well done, he is doing well" as a verbal reward when he succeeds. Remember that financial rewards can later turn into bargaining.

Playing games with the child in addition to studying reduces the child's performance anxiety. At the same time, sharing with parents increases. To gain the habit of reading books outside of class Books should be read along with it.

Extracurricular activities such as arts and sports should be given importance. The child needs another environment where he can express himself and relax. This situation also affects their lessons positively.

Parents must agree on the child's study routine and the rules within the family. Otherwise, the different attitudes of the mother and father may be confusing for the child who is already in the process of adapting to school.

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