What is trust?
Do you think it is easy to establish a trusting relationship with children?
It is definitely very easy in the first months. However, establishing a relationship of trust during the identity formation period of children between the ages of 1 and 2 requires some time, effort and patience.
According to the statement of the Turkish Language Association, trust is defined as the feeling of trust, fear, hesitation, belief without doubt and attachment. . To trust means to have confidence and trust.
The feeling of trust is actually one of the most real feelings. We trust to survive. When our evolutionary process is examined, the feeling of trust dates back to the struggle for survival of our hunter-gatherer ancestors. Although trust may seem like a primitive behavior, it is not a feeling that is requested from or offered to the other person. Trust is an emotion we feel, of which we are not aware, and which is present in most of our lives. When we trust, we do not question the source. When we lose our sense of trust, we realize it.
How to be a trustworthy person? Who do we trust? When do we trust? We don't know. This feeling is felt entirely internally.
In general, reliable people;
Keep their promises,
Display integrity in their words and actions,
We can say that they are honest,
responsible people.
The sense of trust in children begins in the womb and continues until the age of 2. During this period, the mother meets all the physical and emotional needs of her child and helps her child develop a healthy sense of trust. This feeling is then shaped by communication within the family. The place where we feel most comfortable in terms of trust is with our family. The only place that takes us, all of us, from a defenseless state to a strong one is with our family.
Before the baby is born, the baby's bond of trust is formed, starting from the mother's feelings and thoughts about her baby, and when the baby is born, the mother feels close to her baby. The baby, who expects care, support and protection for the first 6 months, does not want to leave his caregiver and cries after 7 months. During these times, if the person who is primarily responsible for the baby's care, usually the mother, is sensitive to these reactions, willing, and responds verbally and tactfully without delay, a healthy attachment and subsequent healthy separation will develop. Afterwards, the baby stretches out to explore the surroundings. He starts to get grayer, but in every difficult situation he returns to his self-care and expects support. Social relationships develop more easily in families where healthy attachment and trust are established.
Trusting is a requirement of being human. It may develop or disappear over time.
Isn't it time for us to take action before it's too late to make our sense of trust healthy both with each other and with our children?
I would like to end my article with a quote from Voltaire. ; 'Anyone who is self-confident can rule the world'.
I wish you healthy days.
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