Self-confidence means that a child feels good as a result of developing good feelings towards himself. In other words, it means "being happy with being oneself and as a result being at peace with oneself and one's environment." Self-confidence and arrogance do not mean arrogance.
From their elders;
1 - Being loved by them
2 - Finding the closeness and attention they expect when they need it
3 – Their opinions are valued and taken into account
4 – They are trusted
5 – They are given responsibilities appropriate to their age
6 – They are praised for things they do well
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7 - The child is proud of
8 - The child who is allowed to make mistakes in what he does
9 - The child who is accepted as he is, has self-confidence.
*Now he can feel himself. When we continue to feed him, even though he has the skills to feed him, /p>
*When we dress him completely instead of giving him the opportunity to put his leg into one leg of his trousers with little help,
*When he wants to climb the stairs on his own, when we hold him in our arms and take him upstairs,
*Now take care of the belongings. when he can reach out and touch them, when we collect them and put them in the cabinets,
*In the restaurant: “Little gentleman, what do you want to eat?” To the question, we said: "He eats grilled food." When we say,
*When you draw a cephalo-legged man: "Is that a man to be drawn?" When we think that we are an effective model by drawing a man with our 30-year-old skill,
*When he runs eagerly to answer the ringing phone, when we take the phone from his hand, etc. In such cases, it means that we are ignoring the most concrete expressions of our child's growth and healthy development.
Insufficient development of self-confidence has negative effects on families that do not support the child as well as overprotective families. In such cases, the family does what the child needs to do.
Decides on behalf of the child.
Thinks on behalf of the child: "The weather is very cold, you should wear your cardigan." In a sense, it is prevented from feeling whether one is cold or not.
The family thinks that they are doing this to help their children.
The child does not take responsibility.
If he cannot get it, he cannot gain the ability to solve his own problems.
In such children, the feeling of "I can't do it, I am incompetent" may occur.
This feeling prevents the development of the child's self-confidence. In fact, if this situation continues, the child may no longer be able to do anything without asking his mother. It may cause difficulty in making decisions without constant approval in later life.
One of the things that reduces self-confidence is being compared.
He should not be compared to others, his siblings, or neighbor's children.
Your child should not be compared, either. There are many things that he does better and more successfully than his peers.
If you, as a family, recognize the characteristics of your child and value them, he will value his own existence.
Do not give other children as an example to your children.
Give an example of another job that he has done successfully.
You can remind him of the moments when he was successful, such as "How much applause you received while reading poetry last year."
It is one of the subjects that he can do and even do well. Give examples.
Try to know your children well and accurately.
Try to see realistically in which areas they need support.
Tell them about the subjects they are good at. Create suitable environments for him to experiment.
It is very important that you see and notice other positive and beautiful things he does. Make him believe in his own power.
He must believe in himself.
Determine together the areas he enjoys and does well.
Observe your child, have long conversations with him.
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Talk to their teachers, get the opinion of the guidance counselor.
Make plans with them.
Take small steps. Set goals that he can easily achieve.
Always give him support. Let him always know that you are with him.
Be solution-oriented. Do not gloss over the issues and problems. Instead of saying "It will pass, you should never mind, it is not important", your feelings and thoughts should be taken seriously and listened to.
Tell him that he needs to work hard to achieve success in every subject.
From your own life Show examples.
Consider whether you offer the people and support that helped you.
Give him responsibilities, starting small. Follow him, help him. Give support.
Appreciate them and ensure that their sense of responsibility develops.
Support them to engage in different social activities and environments at home and outside of school. Support him going camping with a few friends. In such environments, they will learn to take responsibility more easily. Always make him feel that you are with him.
Let him open up to you about his problems even in the most difficult situations.
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