- The most popular problem of recent times is“I am not happy”. O human, what makes you think that you are not happy!?
- And how do you know that you are happy?
- What is your definition of happiness?
- Is the answer to this a constant state of feeling good? ?
If this is your answer, you have a wrong expectation, because you cannot feel good all the time.
Happiness is just a temporary feeling you feel when you see that your expectations are fulfilled if your needs are met.
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- Let's start from the beginning. Ask yourself, what are the needs that need to be met?
- Now put this list of your needs in order of importance. Ask yourself again, what does my first need mean to me?
- Why do I believe that I need it?
- What will happen in the worst case scenario if I cannot meet this need?
Apply these steps to each of your needs, one by one. Let's assume you answered all of them.
- The real question is coming to ask yourself. What am I doing to meet my need?
- Do I really believe that I have made enough effort to achieve it?
- Let's say you are really sure that you have tried every way and looked at it from every angle. What happens?
- What will happen to you if that need is not met?
- I'm sorry for the last point you reached. Sadness is an emotion just like happiness. Can't you deal with your sadness?
- What should you do to deal with it?
- What should you do differently than what you've done so far?
What you need is hidden within you, you ask yourself. hidden behind questions and excuse-free answers. If you look at it from the right angle, you can see what you really need.
Happiness, like all the others, is just an emotion and no emotion is permanent. Since you don't ask yourself why I'm not sad when your sadness passes, don't ask yourself why I'm unhappy when your happiness passes. Just experience your feeling.
If you don't know what you expect, you won't be able to realize what's happening.
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