Love and marriage are different from each other. Having a love marriage is a beautiful thing. But there are situations when love alone will not be enough. Marriage is also included in this. Because after the signatures are signed, you will not only be with the person you are in love with; You also marry his family, friends, environment and responsibilities. Being aware of this will give you an advantage in making a marriage decision.
The first thing to consider before marriage is the dating period. During the flirting period, everything seems more beautiful than it is. So to speak, butterflies fly in your stomach, your feet are off the ground, and your eyes shine. Flirting is a beautiful period, but we also need to be aware of this. Dating is an opportunity to start a new life, to prepare for a new life, and for two people to get to know each other. If people who want to get married are aware of this period and act accordingly, they can consider stepping into a happy marriage. The point to be considered here is to try not to keep periods such as dating and engagement for too long. Especially in our country, when marriage is decided upon, families will also be involved and the idea of marriage will go beyond the thought of two people and reach other dimensions. The longer these periods are, the more likely they will lead to conflict.
So, what should be taken into consideration before deciding on marriage?
There are important issues that couples who decide to marry should pay attention to before uniting their lives. If these issues are not taken into account, problems may arise. Therefore, issues such as the life view of the person to be chosen as a spouse being in parallel with the person's own view, family structures being similar to each other, belief structures being in the same balance, sexual harmony, and the bond of love between them are important points to be taken into consideration. But what should come first above all these is mutual respect. Respect of spouses for each other and each other's differences is the basis of a solid relationship.
The age of marriage is another important issue. Marriage is a phenomenon that requires responsibility from start to finish. In order to be aware of this responsibility, a person must have reached a certain level of maturity and become aware of his responsibilities. Unable to break away from his family, he founded his own People who prioritize their parents over this family are not suitable for marriage. After marriage, everyone starts their own family. Parents should of course be guiding since they are experienced. However, this does not mean that they can intervene in every aspect of their lives.
Another thing to consider before making a marriage decision is to be aware of why you want to get married. For this, you need to ask yourself the following:
-Why do I want to get married?
-Who is the ideal spouse for me? What kind of person should he be?
-Why do I want to marry this person?
-Are our perspectives on life similar?
These are the questions that form the basis of marriage, and it is up to you to answer them objectively. It will help greatly.
Don't expect the person you marry to be perfect, and never approach a relationship with the thought that he or she will change once you get married. Change is a phenomenon that will come from within the person's own will, not by force from outside. If you can accept your partner as he is and respect his differences, you can achieve something.
Instead of looking for perfection, it will be more useful to cover up unobtrusive flaws. Seeking perfection is like trying to touch the stars. Because there is neither a person nor a marriage in the world that meets the definition of perfect.
Read: 0
