In my previous article, I talked about our intolerance for uncertainty. Our emotions, thoughts, physical reactions and life events that belong to us but we cannot make room for within ourselves. Anxiety, sadness, disappointment, rejection, separation, powerlessness, pain... They are all inseparable parts of the whole of human experience. Let's imagine that you make your own sculpture. Your sculpture forms your whole only when all its parts come together, and it derives both its strength and uniqueness from the coexistence of all its parts, which you judge as good and bad. If you try to remove the parts of the statue that you think are not good for you, you will see that the other parts become weak over time. Here, you may say that while trying to create a more pleasant-looking, smooth sculpture, the sculpture moved away from its main story and lost its durability. We may realize that we cannot get rid of the events that cause us uneasiness in our lives, just like in this example, but we cannot fully fit them somewhere. The more we ignore the parts of ourselves that cause us pain by looking in a different direction and the more we try to change them, the more incomplete they become and the more pain we suffer. This is where the issue of acceptance comes into play; Even though it sounds very simple, sometimes we can struggle throughout our lives not to do this. No matter how painful they may be, being able to stop struggling with whatever life throws at us (emotions, thoughts, events) and meet them with an open and accepting stance; that is, learning to stay. Of course, this is not our usual reaction and, like an impulse, we need lots of encouragement and practical advice before we close ourselves off to these experiences or immediately look for somewhere else to go. Seeing, hearing, feeling our difficult inner experiences and searching for ways to exist in the same body is one of the most profound and effective ways to healing. I wish you many days where you can stay with all the pieces of your story, here and now, accepting the uncertainty and what you cannot control, whatever experience life brings you.
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