Families usually evade or ignore questions about death. Many questions remain in children's minds about a subject they do not know. These children, who have great imaginations, become anxious when they think about it. Most mothers and fathers avoid it in order to avoid making a wrong statement, but there are a few behaviors that need to be paid attention to and done.
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When your child asks you a question, you can explain it to him by using story books. Visuals will help him get rid of the questions in his mind.
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It is necessary to answer the questions asked and avoid detailed and long explanations.
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Long explanations can reduce the child's anxiety.
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“ Everything has a beginning and an end. Every day someone is born, every day someone dies.
When someone dies, his body no longer works. He no longer breathes, his heart no longer beats. He doesn't think or feel anymore
. Doesn't eat or sleep. It will be sufficient to explain that people may die for different reasons.
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It is important to explain that death is not a choice.
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It is necessary to avoid other concepts instead of the concept of death, the child may not understand.
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After getting the answers to the questions he asks, he can ask them again and again and answer them without getting bored. It is important.
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If a relative of your child has died, instead of lying to him/her, the truth should be explained considering his/her age. When he learns the facts, his trust in you may be shaken.
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If he asks questions about life after death, your child is asked to imagine that there are different beliefs about this, that you have not been there before, but as far as you know, leave it to your child's imagination.
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It is important to give the child the news of a relative's death in a calmer place and by an adult he or she trusts.
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If the relatives experience their feelings If he wants, there is no harm in doing so, otherwise he will learn that he needs to hide his emotions.
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Being told that the child will watch you after death causes the child to think that he is constantly being watched.
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Funeral burial and funeral home It can negatively affect children and it is beneficial to stay away from these times.
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It is important to let them play games about death and experience their emotions during this period.
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He can play games such as burying himself in the sand or making another box and taking it there.
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Looking at the pictures of the deceased or writing a letter to him will help the child release negative emotions.
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In this period, it is important to spend time with the child as usual, rather than avoiding him/her.
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Especially at a young age, children think that everything that happens around them is because of them. . Children can sometimes feel that death is also because of them. Explaining that it is not the child's fault allows the child to feel guilty.
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The basis of children's questions about death lies in the worry of what will happen to them. For this
reason: 'We are healthy, we are safe. We have many years to spend together and
It should be said that we have a lot to do together.
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