With the development of technology, many of our habits, private and social lives began to change. While social networking sites and smartphones make communication easier and bring the distance closer, they have begun to violate the boundaries of private life. We share our daily lives, romantic relationships and everything about us on social media. So, how do the social media we use frequently affect our romantic relationships?
“I know he is online, but he doesn't answer me, sometimes he sees my messages but doesn't read them, this makes me very angry.”, “Why did he like that photo of you?”, “Why did he like that photo?” you are following?" If such sentences affect your relationship, this article is for you. According to İsmer Family Counseling Center, one of the most common problems between couples is lack of communication. Although communication has become easier with media tools and social media, miscommunication has increased. Nowadays, video calls are preferred over face-to-face meetings, and messaging is preferred over talking. However, face-to-face communication, which is an important element of communication, is always postponed.
I. Discussions via Messaging
Messaging is a communication method that should not be used, especially during discussions. Because communication is not one-way, and the message to be given is face to face, body language and other factors are also supported. However, texting may lead to misinterpretations and distraction from the main topic being discussed.
I. Moving Discussions Online
When you have a problem with your partner, sharing it on social media will cause other people to get involved in the issue. This will cause things that should be special in your relationship to be thrown around, and the problem that needs to be solved with your partner will grow and turn into a different problem. According to İsmer Family Counseling Center, it would be best not to share your arguments or relationship problems on social media.
III. Sharing Every Moment of Your Relationship on Social Media
Sharing every moment of your relationship on social media may cause you to miss the moment. Studies have shown that people in happy relationships take fewer photos and share less. If life makes you happy, then We also stay away from or are less interested in other things that will distract us from it. Therefore, our suggestion to you would be to focus on the moment in your relationship and enjoy your time. Missed moments may later damage the relationship.
IV. Reason for Discussion on Social Media Posts
An important problem area between couples is individual social media posts. Especially if one of the couples attaches more importance to social media and uses it more actively, this can be perceived as a threat to the other party. As a result, a process that continues with inferring different meanings from the posts made, skepticism, constantly following the profile and then discussing may occur. Stalking (secretly following people) develops after the posts disturb one of the couples, and this damages the relationship by increasing skepticism and questioning.
V. Social Media Friends
Social media use has become so integrated into our daily lives that we prefer the friends we make on social media instead of our friends in real life. We evaluate ourselves according to the number of our friends on Facebook. At this stage, friendships made on social media may become a problem in your romantic relationships. It is necessary to be selective and questioning when making friends on social media, remember that social media is the area where we can show ourselves most differently.
VI. Being Reachable at Any Time
Although the opportunity to be with your partner at any time seems like a very facilitating development today, it can actually negatively affect relationships. In addition to making relationships fast-paced and easy to consume, it can also make relationships ordinary. Afterwards, you may be faced with an unhappy and ended romantic relationship. To prevent this, creating quality moments where you can meet face to face with your partner instead of texting or talking on the phone will play an important role in increasing the energy of your relationship.
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