How Should I React When My Child Is Anxious?

Anxiety is a basic emotion that we all experience from time to time. It mobilizes us against dangers. Some individuals experience this feeling more intensely and in a way that affects their quality of life. Studies have shown that anxiety disorders begin in childhood and that genetics (biological) and parental behavior (environment) are effective in the formation process.

Anxious, worried children are extremely sensitive to the events around them. They worry too much about the negative outcome of the problems they encounter and about bad things happening. If families cannot recognize the intensity of their children's emotions, they may want them to stay away from the problem instead of finding a solution. In this way, when families act with the instinct of protection, on the one hand, they take away their children's learning opportunities, and on the other hand, they reinforce the avoidance that causes anxiety to continue. For example, let's imagine a child and family who think their friends are laughing at them in the park and feel left out because of this situation. If the family immediately asks their children to stay away and not go to the park, they are offering a hasty and harmful (anxiety-increasing) solution. Instead, one should start by listening carefully to what he/she is feeling and accompanying the emotion he/she is experiencing (empathetic attitude). The second step should be to ask him to test the event that caused his exclusion and his interpretation of this situation (I am excluded). The child, who has already explained his anxiety, will be able to think more realistically as he calms down. In this case, asking the child to play again with his/her friends and test whether the same things will happen will provide the child with the opportunity to learn. Remember, anxiety is an emotion that increases the more you avoid it.

Teaching our children to face anxiety and evaluate the causes of this feeling is the main duty of families. download. Stay healthy..

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