Do something. Let it be nice. Is it very difficult? Then say something nice. Is your tongue not moving
? See something beautiful. Or, write something nice. Can't you do it?
Then start something good. But let it always be beautiful. Because "every person will die
at age." Don't be late.
Şemsi Tabrizi
Do Nice Actions, Because Allah Loves Those Who Do Beauty (Baqara 195)
Life brings different surprises to people at every moment. Every surprise. It requires carrying it and
displaying behaviors compatible with the change it creates
. If the most precious of surprises were the little human baby who grew up laboriously for nine months
and painted our lives with his own color with his birth
It is necessary…
Being a parent means making a start, starting everything over again. Having a full embrace and feeling valuable. Being a parent is just that
It makes you valuable, sometimes it can even make you forget your other roles. A living being
revolves around you. You create a relationship of love and beloved around it. You give it your milk
and it gives you your integrity. .It completes the unfinished part of you.
The emotions are completed within you. You have never known anxiety so closely before. And compassion, worry about the future. As the days go by, you become fascinated as you watch the new forms created in your womb, and your judgments about beauty are re-formed. .You can no longer see any child that beautiful
.
A good example of this is explained in the parable below. One day, the crow lost its baby.
He was frantically asking his right and left about his baby.
Did a pure white baby pass here? .The other birds replied, "We did not see a white baby
but there is a pitch black baby over there." p>
They laughed with surprise and a bit of sarcasm, saying, "His own black baby looks like egg white to the mother."
I have been meeting with parents for many years. At the first meeting, I always hear these words from them: "Oh, Ms. Nurşen is so smart that she does this and that. I want her intelligence not to be wasted and to get a good education." However,
what parents tell is often normal
behavior that the child should show during the development process.”. I listen with great interest. (I know the feeling
because… it is a common thing about motherhood. This is one of our denominators.
Always seeing my children as different from others
admiring their unique potential is my weakness as a mother.
This is the enthusiasm of parenthood that envelops people. And it causes him to devote his whole life to the child. ,afterwards
he wants to separate. He resists and reveals his own identity. He rebels by saying "I don't want it
, I will walk". A child who makes a mess, throws his toys
and stomps and cries It wakes up our dreams
parents. Behaviors that we dismiss by saying "Their parents did not raise them well" when we see them in others have now begun to cause us helpless moments
>In moments of crisis, we experience tendencies towards the future, and we hope for help from the behavior of our own mother, which is recorded in our subconscious
. However, times
have changed. Children have become different.
What to read about child education books begin to fill our library.
The formulas and suggestions given often do not work for our child.
Conversations with friends and family always focus on children. We cannot discuss topics about ourselves with our spouse. Our marriage has turned into our parenthood.
Meanwhile, we are searching. We would like to find an education model. It is exactly what suits our
child. Implementing this learning model should not require much effort
. It should cause the child to improve suddenly. We want. Let him understand when you speak. Let him listen immediately
" Of course, mommy and daddy, whatever you want." We wait for him to say it
However, we forget that even growing a plant requires a lot of effort and time.
The adventure of bamboo is an important example for us.
First, the seed of the bamboo tree is planted, It is watered
and
fertilized.
There is no change in the seed in the first year. Seed in the second year
It is watered and fertilized again. The bamboo tree still does not sprout out of the ground. In the third and fourth years, the process is repeated every year without getting tired
. Bamboo seed is watered and fertilized.
But the stubborn seed does not sprout. With great patience, the Chinese continue to give water and fertilizer to the bamboo in the fifth year.
It reaches a height of approximately 27 meters in a short time like a week.
The following questions come to our mind.
Can't we make the bamboo tree grow from the soil before?
Bamboo Did the tree reach 27 meters tall in 6 weeks or 5 years?
Would the seed have grown this tall even if it had not been cared for for 5 years?
Then the answers to these questions will shed light on our goal.
Time, method and patience are very important in raising children
.
As Şemsi Tabrizi said at the beginning of our article
Do something. . Let it be nice. Is it very difficult? Then say something nice. Is your tongue not moving
? See something beautiful or write something beautiful. Can't you do it?
Then start something good. But let it always be beautiful. Because "every person will die
at age." Don't be late.
Şemsi Tabrizi
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