Don't You Trust Anyone?: Pistanthrophobia

Human is a bio-psycho-social being. Socializing, establishing bilateral relations and trust are very important for our social life. In some people, the inability to trust the other person at all can reach the level of phobia, and the person may begin to distrust anyone and even be afraid of trusting them.

The basis of the difficulty in trusting other people begins with lack of self-confidence, which affects their beliefs about whether the other person is trustworthy or not. The person experiences a situation of distrusting people by taking some kind of protection to prevent the negative experiences he had in his past relationship experiences from happening again. This negative experience from the past unconsciously repeats itself in new relationships with the fear of being hurt again, and this continues in a vicious circle.

While trust is the most important part of every relationship, these people identify their past experiences with the present and believe that all people are unreliable. In order to protect himself from possible harm in the future, he hesitates to take steps with negative, rigid beliefs such as "If I trust again, I will experience the same things", "If I trust no one, I will not get hurt again", "None of the people can be trusted", "These things always happen to me" and he tries to protect himself from every human being. ; They label him with the label that will upset him, break his confidence, and make him experience the same negative experiences again. They think of the worst-case scenario of every event that will happen and do not trust what the other person says. This feeling of distrust creates; It may be accompanied by disappointment, hopelessness, the feeling of never being happy, anger, guilt, anxiety and fear.

Not only do you experience problems in emotional relationships; The situation of insecurity may continue in business life, family life or socio-cultural environment. Although a distant and insecure attitude is displayed in relationships, rejection and lack of self-confidence may underlie this situation. These people, who are generally introverted, quiet, and keep to themselves, are distrustful not only of the people around them but also of their own intuition and emotions. In this context, they become even more insecure in order not to be rejected in this area where they are vulnerable and to avoid experiencing the same feelings again.

Cat, dog. Just as someone with a phobia tries to change his path and escape when he sees an animal, this person They may avoid establishing relationships with people due to intense anxiety about the insecurity they experience in the future, so the fear of experiencing the same things again may outweigh trusting people.

What are the Symptoms of Pistanthrophobia?

• Although he wants to trust the other person, he cannot do so

• Avoiding establishing new relationships because he thinks that every person he meets will be bad and will damage his trust

• Irrational fears that every new relationship will harm oneself, shake one's confidence, and upset oneself

• Feeling bad and experiencing intense anxiety in situations related to trust

• Belief that other people do not show themselves as they are, suspicious attitudes, jealousy

• Imagining the worst scenario in relationship fantasies about the future, clinging to negative thoughts, pessimism

• Strong beliefs that a happy relationship will not exist and is unattainable

• Always looking for situations that will disappoint oneself

• Hard and cold attitudes about relationship issues to protect yourself from getting hurt

• Preventing your emotions from being revealed

• Belief that people will not value him and will shake his trust

• Not trusting the other party at all, approaching every person he meets with suspicion

How Can I Overcome Pistanthrophobia?

• First of all, the most basic thing to know is that future relationships will not have the same characteristics as the past. Just as not every person is the same, not every relationship will have the same pattern. But; Negative thoughts such as "Why does this always happen to me?", "I will never be happy", "No one can be trusted", "Anyone can damage my trust" can cause you to choose people who are likely to experience the same situation if they are not resolved.

• Finding the old emotions that cause you not to know and trust new people, knowing these emotions well and working on them is one of the important steps.

• Accepting the negativities experienced in the past and confronting them without running away from your emotions is very important for the healthy progress of new relationships.

• Learning from past situations is important in order not to repeat these situations in newly established relationships.

• This problem you are experiencing will not happen in a short time, and you need to give yourself time to move forward instead of expecting a solution in a very short time.

• This is the most important thing. When you cannot cope with the situation on your own, psychotherapy support can help you find the roots of your problems in your past experiences and work on the emotions that prevent you from trusting people.

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