From the moment your child is born, you watch his/her change every day. You also know what big changes are happening from one month to the next. While only a few words have meaning for the baby when he is twelve months old, when he is twenty-four months old, saying "no" begins to become an effective method for cooperation.
There are 3 stages of saying no to your child;
First Stage:
There is no "no" in the first stage, but this process prepares your baby for the next stages. In this phase, you are the one responsible at every moment. When something undesirable happens, you blame yourself. This stage ends very slowly. You continue to take responsibility, of course, but as your child develops his ability to comprehend what is happening around him, you begin to relax. If this stage is well past, your child will become an independent member of society without the need for family supervision.
If this stage is skipped or if it is said that he does not understand it anyway, in the future he will only obey "no"s when his parents are around, but They may be children who cannot decide on their own what is yes and what is no when they are not around.
Second Stage:
You start saying no to your baby, because your baby's mental processes are slowly developing. , you notice that you start to notice the things you allow and the things you don't allow. When you do this, you don't look at moral rights and wrongs, you just make your baby feel that you are trying to protect him. The "no"s in this phase are aimed at protecting people from dangers in the environment. In this period, when the child encounters dangerous situations, just saying "no" is enough.
Third Stage:
When you say no to your child in this period, say "no". It is a period spent explaining the reasons.
We include language in the process with explanations such as "no, because it is hot" rather than "no, because I say no!" If you are a mother, I think you can easily handle the "no" issue. Unhappy mothers, I can say this based on my clinical observations; Because of their own unhappiness, they tend to exaggerate the happy aspects of baby care. Sometimes just because they don't want to They say 'no', which can often cause a reaction in the child.
So why should I say 'no'? I can almost hear you say;
If the child's current behavior is not dangerous or wrong in your opinion, letting him do it, otherwise saying no may guide you on when to say no. Remember that it is not how much you say no that matters, but how consistently you say no.
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