YOU ALL KNOW THAT PERSON VERY WELL.
YOU HAVE ENCOUNTERED THESE PEOPLE AS EITHER A FATHER, A MOTHER, OR A GRANDPATHER, A TEACHER, A COMMANDER OR A SCHOOL PRINCIPAL, OR A SUPERIOR OR A FRIEND AT YOUR WORKPLACE.
Are they difficult people? Maybe, but there are definitely aspects of him that you respect. Their perfectionism is superhuman, they are rule-oriented, they are detail-oriented, they talk in a "must, should" or "must, should" manner, they are trying to adjust the environment according to rules that are constantly in danger of being violated, life always means rules and requirements for them. They can't stretch, they can't release the rope, they can't release the brakes, so it's not possible to have a pleasant time with him, because he sees such things as a waste of time, you want to be alone with him at some point, but he either can't find the time for that, or is it worth spending money on that now? says? Or he thinks that instead of going there, he will take lessons, complete his market work, or wash dishes. It makes you feel guilty about being lazy and slacking off. He is always very polite, very good, very clean, very tidy, very tidy, very responsible, very chaste, very valuable, very serious... but at the same time a boring personality.
He takes pleasure in packing and goes home. He is excited while cleaning, his brain works with pleasure while worrying about an unimportant detail (like a light orange or dark orange sofa, for example), he is energetic when he goes from market to market and always finds the one that is a lira cheaper. Once he gets down to business, he forgets himself and his surroundings. In fact, he is very hardworking.
He was once the most diligent student of the class and even of the school. At the university, he is one of the 20 students who come to the lecture hall earlier than everyone else and sit in the front row, listening to the lecture eye to eye with his teacher, not missing a single letter, and even coming home and spending hours transcribing his notes with colorful pens, and whose name is known by the faculty members in a class of 450 people. You know very well that he does not want to give these notes to his friends, because you have repeatedly asked for them and been rejected. By the way, when you received it, you also got high marks. But you did not thank this girl (mostly they are girls) and made fun of her by saying "the sucker comes into our place and listens and struggles". Yes, my lazy boyfriend, who enters the lecture hall 20 minutes late, sits at the back, tries to escape at the first opportunity, does not take notes, is an ordinary man of the large herd of men. You were an individual. This is the story of that hard-working and rule-abiding girl that you are jealous of. Despite all her academic efforts, this girl is actually not interested in art, politics, poetry or cinema. She has never visited a museum. He doesn't read books either. Instead of engaging in intellectual activities, he makes lists, checks his surroundings for the thousandth time, and cleans up household clutter in a stereotypical way. She is not an innovator, she is a status quo supporter. This is the person who truly defines the concept of conservative. Being able to loosen old patterns and transform into a new form is harder than death.
At 12 at night, on an empty road, he obeys the U-turn ban and goes 5 km to the next intersection. He has never been seen passing even a yellow light, let alone a red one. The officer who asked for the driver's license and license, after seeing the order in them, steps aside and says, "God damn me, I stopped the most decent woman in the world, what order, what perfection, that is, I'm ashamed of myself." If you live with someone like this, you are tired of constantly feeling restrained, constantly being disciplined, and being put into an overly dignified style. But you know that in order to be a responsible and good person, you have to be a little like this. In fact, every person should have it to some extent. You even know that prophets, saints, asfiya
righteous people, truly religious people are always a little like this. Likewise, successful mothers, successful doctors, judges, commanders, and those who do other jobs and are appreciated are all these pure and high-spirited valuable people.
But what if they are completely enslaved by these characteristics...
Get used to them being so boring. Don't blame too much. You found each other like a pot or lid.
If you didn't secretly have these characteristics, you either wouldn't like it at first or you wouldn't continue. So, you too carry a heavier soul than you think.
OBSESIVE COMPULSIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER
1. He/she is preoccupied with rules, details, details, lists, sorting, organizing or scheduling to the point of forgetting the main purpose of the work being done.
2. They make it difficult to finish work due to their perfectionism. (e.g. cannot complete a project because, in his opinion, extremely stringent criteria cannot be met)
3. Dedicates himself to work or productivity to the extent that he lacks leisure activities and friendships (economic loss) cannot be explained by their needs). Vacation is free time for him. For example, one should either go to a course or take a course at that time.
4. He listens excessively to his conscience and does not show flexibility in matters such as morality, truth or values (cannot be explained by his cultural or religious identification).
5. He cannot dispose of old or worthless things, even if they have no special value.
6. Others do not want to distribute tasks or work with others unless they agree to do it exactly as they do. (A cleaner or a day laborer for his house. The type who cannot find someone, does not like the way any of the people do the job, and tries to do all the work himself)
7. He is stingy. He is stingy when it comes to spending money, both towards himself and others; Money is seen as something that should be saved for future disasters.
8. It is rigid and stubborn.
THESE ARE THE SYMPTOMS IN DSM 5.
IF AT LEAST FOUR ARE PRESENT, OCPD CAN BE DIAGNOSED.
IS TREATMENT REQUIRED?
DOUBT.
BUT SINCE HE SEES HIMSELF AS THE MOST CORRECT AND PERFECT, YOU ARE WANTING THE TREATMENT ON HIM'S BEHALF, NOT HIM.
YOU EXPECT HIM TO CHANGE WITH TREATMENT AND TO BE NORMAL OR EVEN TO BE AS IRRESPONSIBLE AND AS A TEENAGER ATTITUDE LIKE YOU.
UNfortunately, that's a bit difficult. THESE ARE ALSO PEOPLE WITH A SERIOUS LEVEL OF NARCISSIM. HE WILL NOT LIKE AND WILL NOT TAKE SERIOUSLY MOST OF THOSE WHO CRITIQUE HIM AND TRY TO ADVICE HIM. MOST OF THEM, INCLUDING THE PSYCHIATRIST/THERAPIST WHO CRITICISM AND EVEN ATTEMPT TO GIVE TREATMENT, HAVE A HISTORY OF BEING LAZY CREW SITTING IN THE BACK ROW, WAITING FOR GRADES. IF THIS IS THE WAY, UNfortunately, YOU ARE A VERY UNLUCKY PERSON.
BECAUSE YOU HAVE A HOME-TYPE FÜHRER, SO YOU LIVE WITH "HITLER".
THERE IS NO SOLUTION.
Isn't there any consolation? ? THERE IS THERE. DON'T WORRY.
YOU WILL NOT LIVE LONG, SO YOU WILL BE SAVED SOON.
DUE TO A HITLER PARTNER (WIFE, HUSBAND, WIFE, MOTHER, FATHER) AND THE FASCIST ORDER, YOUR LIFE EXPECTATION WILL BE AS SHORT AS 20 YEARS. AFTER ALL, THEY SAY THAT TROUBLE KILLS THE BRAVE.
BUT, WITH WORK IN YOUR HOUSE, WHICH HAS TURNED INTO OFFICE LIFE, YOU CANNOT BE SAID TO BE LIVING ANYWAY.
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