Our other behaviors that emerge in line with our perspectives are governed by our Paradigms. Paradigms constitute us and carry the characteristics that emerge with us. In short; It is a systematic formed by the truths that people accept in their perception of the world, and it is a psychological glasses analogy that we obsess over without realizing it. We create our truths by seeing our outer world, as well as our inner world, through these glasses.
Apart from the paradigms we acquired in society and with the teachings of our culture when we grew up with our family, there are also factors such as education and newspapers. We may encounter very frequently in the society we live in:
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Oppressive upbringing,
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Living with prejudices,
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Conservatism,
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Traditionalism,
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Egocentrism,
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Trying to mold the other person,
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Negative thinking, etc. We put ourselves into certain patterns under the influence of established tendencies.
No matter what, individuals grow up around us who cannot change their point of view. It is very difficult to raise awareness by breaking these belief patterns and to improve by asking ourselves some questions in front of the mirror.
In order to change our perspective in order to improve, we must not forget that we can change our lives with this awareness. If we are not satisfied with our life or if we live a monotonous and lonely life, the priority in order to change this situation is that we need to learn how to change our perspective. To be able to make a difference on this situation; It means changing our habits of perceiving the world, being able to look at the events we experience and see different things, and being open to other options.
The first step in learning this is to determine the patterns that will be caused by the reasons and conditions on each behavior. With the changes we may experience under current conditions, the meanings placed on events will also change. If we manage to face this truth, we will once again change the meanings attributed to events and people. With questioning, we gain many benefits accompanied by different meanings. If we do this especially when we can be alone with ourselves, we can gain useful gains in evaluating it from different perspectives. When we look at the issue differently, our emotions may suddenly change, and over time, events that are considered bad may actually be evaluated differently and better than we thought. We can think that there is no problem without a solution and focus more on the solution of the problem.
The second step that needs to be taken to achieve this change is to develop our positive ability. Thinking positive does not mean accepting everything or behaving like Pollyanna. In fact, it is not possible to say "there is something good in everything". Thinking positively means seeing reality as it is and being able to think positive things under negative circumstances.
Finally, our empathy for your perspectives should be strengthened. It will help us gain very important and valuable characteristics such as being more understanding and moderate towards events and people, being able to listen and perceive without internalizing, being able to evaluate ourselves without putting ourselves in that person's shoes, and being able to embrace as well as being combative. An event or person is very valuable and meaningful to all of us. Even if it creates feelings of hatred in the following days, we must first question our sense of empathy towards people. If we successfully achieve these behaviors and mindsets in ourselves, we can find ourselves in a different world with positive psychological results.
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