Anger control is very valuable for managing life more accurately. Sometimes, unavoidably, during communication with our teammates in the work environment, sometimes things may not go as planned. As adults, our colleagues deal with many problems during the day due to their responsibilities. And sometimes there may come a time when the difference of opinion we experience with our teammate whom we value very much can drive us crazy.
At this point, here are 10 steps that will guide you in maintaining calmer and anger control during communication with our teammate. :
1. Train the logical part of your brain for Anger Management
Read plenty of educational articles that explain what you should pay attention to in business life, emphasize the importance of being cool and calm in communication, and remind you how important it is to be a team member. Make it a habit to stop and think before acting.
2. Don't expect your teammates to behave in a way that makes you feel good
We feel calmer and more in control when others, especially our teammates, think and act the way we want. When this does not happen or we cannot achieve this, our tension increases. This is a very natural tendency. However, it may not always be possible to provide the conditions we want. We should be prepared for this, stop and wait to calm down, and use methods to relax ourselves (such as turning on calming music).
3. Know your triggers
Strong emotions affect our behavior and create a triggering effect. Each individual's vulnerability to different emotions is different. Typical triggers for adults in business life are:
• Hopelessness
• Helplessness
• Inadequacy
• Fear
• Guilt
So what emotions trigger you? Identify which behavior of your teammate annoys you the most. Follow your body's signals.
4. Ask yourself why these behaviors make you angry
Review your past experiences and your fears about the future. How does this behavior of your teammate make you feel? Is it inadequate or fearful? guilty? Think about what you can do to comfort yourself and how you can calm down when you feel these emotions, and take notes, try to remember them when you feel these emotions.
5. Notice immediately when anger control is about to be lost!
Remember that when you get angry, your team will be affected as much as you. It is very important to relax yourself and deal with difficult emotions.
6. Have realistic expectations
Be reasonable and realistic about yourself and your teammates. If you cannot do this on your own, get help from your teammate or team leader to remind and support you in this regard.
7. Heal the wounds of the past
Get rid of the fears and false teachings you brought from your own past. Do not burden your teammates to compensate for your own shortcomings.
8. Beware of power struggles
You may remember a very valuable children's song that provides guidance on this issue: Two stubborn goats standing on a bridge... it continues. If the power struggle turns into mutual stubbornness, there will be no winner in this situation. Stubbornness will not lead to success in communication and will bring about possible communication accidents. For this reason, avoid getting into a power struggle with your teammate when you are angry. Maintain a realistic perspective on yourself and your team.
9. Stay away from negative fictions
If you have an anxious nature, frightening thoughts about your work duties and responsibilities may occupy your mind. Try to replace these negative thoughts and images in your mind with the opposite ones.
10. Relieve stress through exercise
Learn to do relaxation and breathing exercises. Practice a sport twice a week as an amateur. When you control your body, you manage your thoughts and soul more accurately.
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