For some reason, we always think of the word "respectful" as if it belongs to the adult world. Children can be disrespected, but not adults, or children can be disrespectful, as if it will go away when they grow up. What if it doesn't go away?…
We have a saying, "well-behaved birds do what they see", which is one of the beautiful sayings of our favorite ancestors. It can mean many things, but the part I'm interested in is; Whatever our birds are treated with in our homes gets inside them and they start to treat them the same way. The mistake that adults often make is that love and respect are confused. In other words, “I love you very much, so I can talk to you as I want” or “We love each other very much, we know this, so we can treat each other as we wish” are misconceptions because love without respect is damaged. After a while, breaks start causing injuries. Because of the existence of love, it sometimes becomes difficult to put it into sentences or convey it to the other party. After a while, when it becomes unmanageable, ruptures in relationships and involuntary generalizations begin. These can lead to irreversible paths in relationships. Don't think that these only apply to adult relationships. On the contrary, it also applies to relationships with children...
What kind of child are you, you always do this, you never listen, were you born in a barn, close the door, you will make a man and I will see, you stink, go take a shower, Sometimes I doubt that you are my child, I don't understand who you are attracted to... Statements like this... If you approach them with empathy, you will realize how hurtful and hurtful they are. Think of the person you love most in your life and hear these sentences from that person... You will be really hurt. As is true for every child, we begin to know life with our first parents. Therefore, the ones we love the most, the ones we get angry with, the ones we get hurt with, the ones we laugh with first, the ones we cry with first... All of these are our parents. Therefore, we will learn communication from them first. As parents are exposed to their communication styles the most, their children's communication orientations will also be the same. Every word that comes out of your mouth is more valuable than gold , Every word adds another brick to his/her path to becoming a human being... Be careful to communicate with your children, starting from infancy, the way you would like to be spoken to. When you lose your patience and feel like you can't control your communication style, take a break by moving away from the environment. You don't have to keep talking when you're angry. However, let the other person know that you need a break. Of course, while doing this, you should express your needs with a respectful sentence, not "Go away so I don't see you", but "I need to be alone, I need to calm down". Getting angry and angry is related to the person himself. Because who feels what and how much anger varies from person to person. Loving is one thing, counting is another. To count; It is recognizing the existence of the other person. Love feeds respect and respect feeds love. The existence of one does not make the other unnecessary or undermine its sufficiency. On the contrary, we need both.
Our children model their parents and their relationships. Our children are not potted plants, they are social beings with human brains. They are on the journey of becoming human since their infancy and even in their mother's womb. We now know from studies that even plants develop more vibrantly when we talk to them nicely and have pleasant conversations, but they wilt when they are exposed to bad discourse. Every life and every living thing is a blessing. Let's love, express our love, find ways to convey our love, let's not lose our respect, let's not darken our hearts, for our mental and physical health, without consuming without exhaustion, and for the health of the lives of living beings other than us, let's not lose our respect, let's not lose our respect for every living creature under all circumstances, every breathing creature. Let's compete with ourselves as humans with the effort and effort to become even more human.
Stay with love, be treated with respect and be treated with respect. Best regards…
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