When we face difficulties or go through difficult situations for us, there are some changes in our mood, communication and behavior as human beings. Sometimes we can have a hard time controlling them. In such cases, how we conduct our relationship with our children and how we communicate is of great importance. The more we make the home environment safe for our children, the more they will overcome such situations or processes in the most comfortable way.
Trust is the feeling of belief and attachment without fear, hesitation or doubt. These feelings are felt in a safe environment. Children understand very quickly how the environment in which they live comes to them and they react quickly. Conflict, misunderstanding, disagreement, etc. to be experienced by two people who have difficulty in understanding each other and trying to establish a dialogue. like, if we do not follow the right path in our communication with our children, disagreements, stubbornness and conflicts will not come much between us.
Here are 4 ways to make the home environment safe for children:
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Being predictable and consistent in communication
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Being nurturing and loving
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Reassuring calmly
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Using thoughtful problem-solving skills
Being predictable and consistent in communication: Your child will experience fear and anxiety in this challenging process. can convey such feelings. Not being unresponsive to them, not ignoring them, opening the space where they can experience their emotions and making them feel that we are with them allows them to stay with the emotions they have experienced, to understand that this is not a strange situation, and to experience those emotions. At the same time, it is very important for them to know that they are not alone in this process, that you are together in this process and that you will protect them as much as you can.
Being nurturing and caring: This is where unconditional love and emotional nurturing come into play. Sometimes we need these two factors to calm negative emotions. Feeling that their love has no condition or reciprocity, even a touch, an accepting glance, shows that children themselves are sufficient in this way, they show them unconditionally. enough to show you love and accept. Feeling these emotions, the brain will automatically relax.
Quietly providing reassurance: Giving reassurance and answering questions without panic clears the doubts in the mind. It will be effective to be descriptive and clear, to be consistent, to indicate the behaviors you want to do, together with the reasons, instead of glossing over the issue or ignoring it. If you handle this process calmly, you will be a healing factor on your child. They, too, can get through this process without panicking or frightening.
Using thoughtful problem-solving skills: Solving problems requires skill. As with any skill acquisition, the more the problem-solving skill is experienced, the stronger it is learned. The family's share in the child's acquisition of this skill is very large. The more solution-oriented and understanding parents' attitudes are, especially in the face of a specific problem, the more children learn how to act in the same situation, the less confused, less worried, and better adjusted they are. In this way, a sense of confidence develops. Behavior problems are also less common in an individual who feels safe.
With these four tips, you can overcome processes or conditions that we can describe as negative by leaving a positive impact on your children.
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