Violence; According to the definition of TDK; It is the degree of a movement, a power. It is defined as the excess of an emotion or action. Children begin to perceive the feeling of violence from the outside during the preschool period. Violence is an emotion that has existed since the birth of humanity. Sigmund Freud thinks that we have two basic instincts, sexuality and violence, and he thinks that some people can handle these aggressive and violent tendencies with defense mechanisms, while some people express them in different ways. The other view belongs to Bandura and he says that violence and aggression are learned by observing. Like positive behaviors, negative behaviors can also be learned by observing.
"Violence begets violence."
What are the causes of aggression in children?
Aggression and violence can be seen in preschool children. ; First of all, it is important to observe whether the child can express himself. Children do not tend to become aggressive in environments where they can express themselves or are given the opportunity to express themselves. Because the environment he wants to say is provided by his parents, teachers and other people around him. Violence can occur in children's lives in different circumstances and to different degrees. Violence is not just about beating; starvation, imprisonment in the house or room, shouting, swearing, humiliation are also forms of violence.
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Parental attitudes and constantly keeping children under control request
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Parents' inconsistent behavior towards the child
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The child's frequent exposure to physical or verbal violence
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Not receiving enough attention
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Arguments between parents (for example, the father yelling at the mother to make her do something, the child thinking that I can get what I want this way)
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Supporting the child's aggressive tendencies by the family (for example, directing the child to respond in the same way to those who commit violence against him or accepting the situation as a result of his bad behavior)
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Screen ( television, computer games, etc.)
What should be done? &nbs p;
Factors such as environment, person and situation affect children's behavior. It is important to first get to the root of the behavior and identify the child's behavior. It is necessary to determine in what situations and environments he performs this behavior. The reasons for the determined behavior must be found and factors must be taken into account when doing this. Then, the reasons for the detected behavior should be investigated. At the last stage, alternative solutions should be developed to replace the current behavior. For example, the problem solving method of a child who fights with his friends over a toy; Pushing and taking is the best way to correct mistakes in problem solving in terms of behavior, environment and method. It is important to make the child aware of the different methods he can use against this problem. If we go through the same example; They can be guided by methods such as sharing toys or playing in a certain time and order. Brainstorming can be done by thinking about these ideas together.
An aggressive child in a moment of anger should be left alone in an environment to calm down and should be informed that he/she will talk after he/she calms down. You can start communicating with expressions that show that you understand the feeling he is experiencing. For example, taking an empathetic approach with sentences such as "I see that you are angry right now, I think you experienced something that made you angry" will make it easier to communicate. The next stage of communication is to enable people to express their feelings and thoughts. In moments of anger, parents as well as children need to be controlled. If you approach an angry child in the same way, no results will be achieved and the child will show resistance.
Repeatedly repeating negative characteristics to children causes them to experience acceptance even if they do not have this condition. They may also try to justify their actions by making the same reference to themselves. Positive behaviors should be highlighted and motivated. In addition, the child has stress and energy created by aggression. It should be ensured that the child can release this energy through games, sports or other activities.
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