As mentioned before, many roots of problems are hidden in the subconscious and the client has no idea why he is experiencing the problem and therefore how to get rid of it. However, even when clients know the root causes, these early experiences are often surrounded by a great deal of guilt and shame. Such feelings are uncomfortable and people do not want to look at them. PICT teaches clients this in a way that is independent of the events because the event occurred in childhood and there is no shame or blame attached to the child.
Children very easily accept being blamed and are definitely pushed into this by dysfunctional families. It is very easy for dysfunctional families to use their children as objects to project their own inadequacy and guilt. Most of the children's mistakes are innocent because they are just learning the rules of life. Children depend on information from their parents to navigate life safely and appropriately. If parents cannot do their duties properly, children will be open to making very serious mistakes. Therefore, if parents have failed to fulfill their responsibilities, the blame for the child's mistakes should automatically fall on their shoulders. However, because these issues are rarely discussed or examined, children may grow up with misplaced guilt and shame.
According to PICT, working solely with the conscious (adult state) or subconscious (child state) separately is rarely successful in creating the balance and harmony needed to solve the problem. Just trying to create a change in consciousness/adult state is not fully digested and the person finds himself struggling. Because the emotions and beliefs that 'govern' the behavior have not changed yet, and the person can only make an effort not to follow those emotions. Likewise, trying to create change only in the subconscious/child state is insufficient to establish the understanding needed for the behaviors that are wanted to be stopped and sometimes causes the undesirable behavior to come back.
In order to fully absorb the change process, it is vital to change beliefs at the level where they were formed/learned. Using metaphors and visualizations for the subconscious and simultaneously for consciousness By embedding appropriate information in the background, PICT effectively makes connections and helps clients seamlessly identify and resolve issues they attribute to blame, blame, and shame. This process creates new permanent neural connections that produce significant and durable results, enabling resolution and behavioral change.
This is a very shocking experience when the client's 'adult self' begins to communicate appropriately with their 'inner child'. Many people cry with relief and hope because they feel like the 'real' problem has finally been addressed - which is true. In order to fully benefit from the communication process, it is important for the adult to provide appropriate information to the child using appropriate therapy methods. Dr. Jean Baker Miller's much-supported work on relational theory identifies the importance of establishing special and reciprocal connections in relationships. According to Erskine (1993), 'Clients who use dissociation need relationship-based psychotherapy'. PICT shows that the first relationship to be addressed is the relationship with oneself. If a person feels that his inner world (adult/parent/child ego states) is balanced and centered, it is possible to establish balanced relationships with others.
When the inner child feels heard by the adult part and begins to receive answers to many of the questions that caused him/her trauma or abuse, he can begin to believe in himself and establish a trusting relationship with the adult part. After obtaining the necessary information, using appropriate therapy models, and limiting the erroneous ideas and beliefs learned from dysfunctional people, new positive beliefs replace the others.
At the end of PICT therapy, clients often report feeling a sense of closure and a new understanding of why and how they are experiencing problems. They now feel like all the pieces of their life are together again – 'My life has meaning now' is a very common phrase. These feelings arise from the inner harmony created by the connection between consciousness and subconscious. This inner harmony often causes clients to feel stronger in any new situation in their lives. because they are no longer struggling with the problems and traumas of the past. Both client and therapist conclude the therapy relationship with a sense of happiness and well-deserved accomplishment.
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